So Close to Whooping Sum1's Ass

Ok...Here's my problem. I've been dealing with my girlfriends ex boyfriend for about 2 weeks now. I really really like this girl (Almost love) and I keep hearing her say stuff about how he keeps talking shit on me and about how he can kick my ass, or how I'm not worth shit, the usual bs people say when they talk behind your back, and I really want to take this into my own hands. But here's the little problem.

Legally I'm a semi-professional fighter so my body is considered a deadly weapon due to the training i've recieved the past 9 years. A short run down of those are Muay Thai, Kick Boxing, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Karate, Wrestling and a very small amount of Judo I also have the kicking power of about 574 lbs. Legally I can't defend myself unless I warn them, and they attack me first. I've been arrested for assault with a deadly weapon twice so far, but I got off because it was self defense, but I still had to do community service for over excessive use of force. I'm only 145 and 5'7 but that fools a lot of people.

I'm about a hair away from finding this kid and beating him into a fucking pulp. The three things I can't stand on this earth are liars, thieves and people who don't have the balls enough to say something to my face. It's literally crushing me on the inside that I know he's running his mouth to people I know ESPECIALLY MY GIRLFRIEND and I can't do fucking anything about it until I find this kid. He's threatened me with violence and insulted my family.

So should I just go down to my girlfriends school and fuck this kids life up? Make him wish he didn't fucking go to school? I don't have a problem with violence, I just have a serious anger issue (There's a huge difference between the two. Mainly when somethings pisses me off, I get angry incredibly quick) One of the things that makes me violent is when anything incredibly negative about my loved ones comes out your mouth. It's getting to the point of where I can't even focus while I'm trying to do homework.

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?

 

Why let something someone says affect you like that? i have people talk shit about me all the time, but that doesn't mean i go kick their ass every time i hear about it.

If you retaliate like that, you will be in trouble with the law, because it won't be self defense. "he was talking shit" isn't a valid excuse in court. so i advise against just going and kicking his ass.

NOW, i can tell you what i usually do to deal with someone who talks shit about me:

i confront them, pretty calmly, and simply tell them that if they have anything to say about me, we can meet somewhere and deal with it face to face. And if he wants to try to prove himself, he can.

That way, if you set up the meeting, and he doesn't show, all that mess he is talking won't mean shit anymore because he didn't meet you, therefore that makes him look like a pussy. and if he does meet you, and wants to fight, let him come at you, and then it's a self-defense case.

But simply going up to someone and beating the ever living shit out of them just because they were talking shit isn't the smartest thing to do. It actually makes you look insecure, because you felt like you had to react in such a way.

just my point of view... wouldn't wanna hear that you're in trouble for assault or anything like that.

 

Thanks man, reading this actually cleared my head up a little.

I know it seems dumb of me to not think of something like that at first, it was just really hard for me to focus on right when I'm incredibly pissed.

 

Why is your girlfriend even still in contact with her ex?

Right now it sounds like she's angry with him and/or she's provoking you to beat him up. If he tells her things about you, why should she even be telling you it? Why is she even listening to him? What good would it bring by telling you what he says? Why should you care what he says anyways? In the end, you got the girl. It sounds like there's nothing really he can do about it except talk shit.

In other words, he's jealous.

 

There are better ways to solve your situation without having to use violence. Personally I am a big fan of the scare tactics, where you can get your message across without actually hurting anybody or getting yourself in trouble.

There is nothing wrong with you going down to her school to talk to this kid, or finding him on his own, but I would be willing to guarantee almost 100% that once you guys are face to face your gf's ex-boyfriend is not going to have so many colourful things to say about you. So you should talk to him, and tell him that you are going to have verbal progress reports from your girlfriend, and that if you hear him talking bad about you, your family, or opening his mouth for anything that is not his business, that you will come back and finish what you started.

If he isn't an idiot and doesn't try to "get tough" then you should be able to handle the situation without the use of violence. If he does.. well, atleast you tried

 

Wait, so punching/fighting someone for you is essentially the same as stabbing them(non-lethally)? (Both use deadly weapons)

 

Yes. By law I have to warn them clearly and assertively and wait for them to strike me first. Anything that's considered force. Pushing, slapping, shoving, and even grabbing them could be considered assault. Mainly because the amount of what I know. I can use any part of your body against you and cause a lot of harm to you. So it's necessary.

@Zerkferfist. It's mainly because they have a class together and they sit by each other (One desk is in between them which is her friend Darlene) and I've even asked Darlene if she's talking to him and she even said no it's just him running his mouth to his friends in the class about what he thinks he can do to me.

 

anytime, bro.

and yeah i know what you're talking about with the deadly weapon law. My dad was a professional boxer, so the punishment is more severe for him if he gets into a fight.

 

the way i see it...
if you can kick his ass without any legal action bieng taken against you...
beat the motherfucking shit outa that kid.
and if there is legal action that will be taking place, is it more worth it to beat him up and take the consequences or let it slide?

its something only you can decide.

if all i was gonna get was a ticket, and no jail time....
it would be a tough choice haha

 

If people talk shit about you take a shit on them instead with this ---> they are talking shit about you, but you shouldn't care because your bothering them enough to think and talk about you, means your better.

Really just blow him off and move on.

 

Why is your girlfriend and her ex even talking? If he doesn't have anything nice to say to her why isn't she just ignoring him?

 

Honestly, beat the fuck out of him. I would honestly.

 

It's only been 2 weeks, so it'll eventually pass. The fact that he's talking shit about you to your girlfriend only means that he's jealous, which makes him look like a loser and should make you feel good. You and your girlfriend need to just ignore him. If it continues for a while and you really want it to stop that badly, then just confront him. Talk shit to his face. It's a win-win situation. Since he only talks shit behind your back, he probably won't know how to react and will embarrass himself all on his own. If he does swing at you, then that will just give you a reason to hit back. Go right for his gut first and knock the air out of him. I know it's tempting to just break his nose and jaw and embarrass him as much as possible, but it's better to avoid leaving marks incase the police do happen to get involved. Even if it is self defense, you will still have to go court and might have to get a lawyer which isn't cheap. You definitely don't want to pull out a weapon either since that only makes you look weak and will only give him more of a reason to talk shit. Assault/possession of a deadly weapon is not a good charge either and will put your ass in jail real quick. I'm surprised you got off that easy other times considering you were still in possession of a weapon. You must be under 18, otherwise you probably wouldn't have been that lucky.

 

You must have not read the whole post.

I'm considered a deadly weapon by the state, due to the amount of fighting classes I've taken. I don't need a weapon to inflict pain on someone.

But thank you for the advice none the less.

 

Tbh if i was you and the man talked shit about me. Id confront him to his face n if he still actin greazy den fuck his shit up my nigga but if you going to his school he might got a couple mans dere dat wuld defend him tho. so i suggest u bring sum mans incase of dat.

 

I read the whole post. I don't know where you live, but I've never in my life heard of any law that states that a person with training in fighting must register themselves as a deadly weapon. I was real curious, so I looked it up to make sure and I didn't read anything that said it's true, but only a myth. It's possible that a judge might be harsher depending on the situation. You might get charged with assault with deadly force or aggravated assault, but not assault with a deadly weapon unless you're carrying a gun, knife, or some other blunt object.

 

It actually is true. He would need to tell the person that he has been trained in whatever forms of fighting he has been trained in, and the other person would have to hit first after that. He will get in a lot more trouble than other people who aren't trained.

 

Read whole thread next time

Anyway, there really is no reason for you to get angry. What he is doing is trying to provoke you, he's hoping either your GF or her friend would tell you everything he says. And it's working since he's getting to you.

Ignore him, he just wants what you have.

There really is only 2 reasons why he would say things like that. Either to provoke you because you got the girl, or he's trying to be a showoff in front of your gf, thinking it would help get her back if he says things like that. I'm sure your gf wouldn't fall for anything like that, actions speaks louder than words.

I would however confront him, if it gets to the point you can't stand him. I don't suggest this. If you do, warn him telling him what you've done, he'd think you're bluffing and take the first hit. From there you can whoop his ass

 

dont go violent. violence is never the answer. Use words and talk to him. yes talk to him and make him make the first move. if he strikes at you pin him to the point where he cant move but is still able to breathe and call the cops. tell them it was self defense and thats why u have him pinned.

Next talk to your girlfriend. tell her to avoid people like this and that she needs to just ignore them. just what ever you do dont use voilence. you will be arrested and like you said your considered a deadly weapon so the last thing we'd want to see is you being on house arrest.

 

Just speak to him, you don't want to get in any trouble do you? or you can just ignore him and be the better man in the situation. Also you should speak to your girlfriend and ask her what is going on and let her know that still speaking to him is hurting you. If you want to speak to me more feel free to PM me.