Parents

Hey Guys, you probably dont see me in here much but i hope to stay =D

anyways down to business

1. My parents are freaking idiots, they only allow me and my brothers 1 hour a day on either the computer or xbox not the comp for 1 hour then the xbox its one or the other. I have tried to tell them that it isnt long enough but they just wont listen to me, any ideas?

2. I want an Iphone Plan which can be found here and its $57 a month and my parents wont sign the thing to let me get it cause they are idiots and im only 16. BUT i have a job which gives me about 70-140 a week and i also bank $50 a week into an ING bank account of which i have nearly $1500 in there, do you think i should be allowed to get it or not?

 

^ I'm going to have to say no, maybe when you get a higher income, and a bank account with $1500 isn't much for a 16 year old....However, what is making your parents restrict you from the computer so much? And have you considered getting an older friend to sign the contract for you? maybe that would work...

 

1. Well everyone's parents are different, however I was allowed as long as I wanted on the computer when I was 14. Bear in mind this computer belonged to me. You are 16 though (same as me) so I think you are eligible for more than one hour a day, I could be on the PC all day if I chose to. Have you spoken to your parents at all about being 16 and thinking you deserve more time? What do they say?

2. Well, it's your money, so if that's what you want to do with it then I would say yes you should have it. Although always remember you don't NEED an iPhone, plus there's always pay as you go if your parents don't follow through.

 

1. Well i have 3 brothers and they are 12,14 so if i got more time they would all wine and wine and then it would just escalate into them getting more time, i even suggested buying my own laptop so my brothers could still use the computer while im on it, but no no no that isnt going to happen either.

2. I know.. but because im not 18 ill need the older person to sign it for me to be the guaranteerer or something like that, incase i get like a crazy bill that i cant pay for they still have some1 to pay it. that is their argument. and i was going to get prepaid and i just put an offer up for an iphone but that is a good $350-$500 that i will use and then like 30-40 a month on credit, it would have been cheaper to go on a plan

they just wont listen

 

Do you get decent school grades and do physical activity? Most parents excuse is that you get shit school marks or your not outside enough. I do alright in school and I go to gym and train for sport.

For the iPhone plan. I'm 14 and make the same amount of cash as you and my parents are letting me go onto a $59 iPhone plan. I don't know what you can do there bud.

 

No im pretty smart lol almost all B's with a few A's and i dont do much physical education but i am fit and will never ever get fat lol i wont let myself

 

I think you should just speak to them, explain you have a job and you are helping bring money into the house and such for your family. Asking for more time on the computer/xbox is nothing compared to asking them for money for something. You do well in school as well so I don't see any reason why they won't allow you more time. I'm pretty sure you could buy your own laptop with the money you have, you don't have to have a card and you could pay in cash.

If you do speak to them about it, ask them exactly why you're the eldest and you're only allowed one hour a day.

 

At the end of the day it's their house and their rules. They don't see you as an adult (and you are not).


My advice is for you to ask them how you can prove you are ready for your own decisions. They've already convinced themselves that what they are doing is best for you, so it's going to take something serious to change their mind.

 

One of the most important parts of parenting is letting your children grow up. Controlling their lives in every way possible seems to always turn out badly (and I know many people with insanely strict parents who have gone ape-shit in college).

You need to talk to them. Take the phone, because that is an easier argument. Do your whole thing about you paying for it and the such. Then go on about how it is your money and you are almost an adult and you should be able to spend your money the way you want to. The fact that you have saved so much shows that you are a good saver and you have shown maturity in not overindulging. Go on with this stuff for as long as you can come up with stuff to say. If they then turn around and tell you know, just do what I did with my parents throughout high school. Go ahead and say whatever will hurt them the most. Make them feel how you feel and how they are crushing you by giving you no freedom. Essentially, make them feel like complete dick wads. That makes them question why you are doing what you are doing and it made my parents (and other people's) give in at least a little.