Girl from last night.

So I went out with my friend last night and met his girlfriend and her friend. I said she seems nice and was alright looking and we were shy at the start but began talking and so we decided to go to the pub and have a drink. Now my friend is a manager at this pub and was telling me about my drunken behavior on Friday night which by all account was terrible.

So my friend dropped me off home and drove back to his girlfriends and they mentioned me and she said that I seemed nice and I am alright looking. Now here comes my problem I was in a bit of a mood last night and I though that this may reflect badly on me so I messaged her on facebook apologizing and added her to talk. She replied and said everything was ok apart from she is really self conscious and that things are not going well at this time. The other problem is she has a boyfriend who by all account is a bit of a gimp and oh she is also 16 almost 17 and I am 19.

So thoughts should I pursue this or leave it to cool down for a while and then speak to her again? Opinions please because both my friend and his girlfriend want me to be with her and too meet up and talk to her but I am not really sure as it’s not fair on the boyfriend. I do think she is nice so I am really confused to what I should do.

 

If her boyfriend is a gimp then she obviously shouldn't be with him.
Also, she said she liked you to your friend, which isn't a thing to say if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend.

You like each other, go for it.

 

Oh Shoopadoop I do adore your honest opinion and I know I dont think she is happy with him for example she had to take him shopping for clothes as he was wearing Hiking boots and Hiking trousers around town ect. So I guess she dident message me back on fb I guess I should wait until the morning.

 

What do you mean by her boyfriend is a "gimp"? Around here, gimp usually means a cripple, or somebody who is handicapped. I sure hope that isn't what you meant

Now in my honest opinion, I do NOT look favourably upon a guy who goes around stealing other guy's girlfriends. But it really all depends on the situation... if by "gimp", you meant this girl's boyfriend is a total idiot and/or treats her like shit, then by all accounts I think you should pursue her and give her a fair shot at being able to date a kind, thoughtful person rather than a douchebag.

If the boyfriend is crippled though, dick move brah =@

 

No he is not disabled in any form at all dont worry he is just a bit strange from what I gather. And also I feel the same way in some respects I have matured because 2 years ago I would of done that.

 

Hmm, well he sounds a bit strange based on what you posted above.

I still would not condone "stealing" her from him by any means. With that said though, there is nothing wrong with you guys hanging out as friends, or with a group of friends like you did last night. Just don't be making moves on her and putting her in an awkward position where she is pressured to hook up with you, all the while knowing she has a gimpy boyfriend waiting for her at home.

If you guys continue to hang out as friends and her feelings develop for you and she ends up dumping her boyfriend, that is not entirely your fault and wouldn't quite be the same as stealing her. Just tread carefully - or else one day you might have a girl that you are totally head over heels for, only to lose her to some douchebag that comes along and steals her from you.

 

If she cheats on her boyfriend with you, I advise you to stay away from her. The next thing you know, you might be that "gimp" to another guy if she ever meets someone.

 

Just because a girl "cheats" doesn't mean she'll cheat on you.
Relationships often end because one of the two likes another person. If you like someone and hate your girlfriend/boyfriend you will regret not doing what makes you happy.

 

You don't want to be with a girl who has a boyfriend.

However great, or not so great, he is- she should end things with him before she starts seeing someone else. What's to stop her from doing the same to you if she finds someone else that she thinks is nice?

Let things cool down, and find out what the deal is with this boyfriend that she has before you do anything that may come back to bite you in the ass.

That's my opinion.

 

Not necessarily, but what do you think would make you so special and differnet? The woman obviously had feelings for her boyfriend at one time, right? She develops these feelings for you and suddenly the person has changed?

It is very hard for people to change. Yes, they can change, but it takes a lot of work. Save all those type of lines for a romantic movie.

 

I've cheated on one my girlfriends in the past, I haven't cheated on any after her.
Just because YOU have had bad experiences doesn't mean everyone that does one thing will always do it.
If you're in a bad relationship you make a new one, that precisely what she is doing, providing she actually goes out with him.

 

I'm pretty sure I wasn't referring to a personal experience :laugh:

Nor did I say once a cheater, always a cheater. Ahh, but no one said she is not happy, did they? i Noob Killer i simply said he thought the boyfriend was "gimp", not her. So if she actually cheated on her boyfriend without saying a bad word about him and was simply looking to hook up, yeah she could be a bit promiscous.

This is all from i Noob Killer i's information he gathered, not from her, but from his own assumption. Unless he failed to mention something.

 

Ah good point, I was under the impression that she didn't like her current boyfriend.
If she does, I don't see anything happening soon.

 

Call me Alex please. Her and the boyfriend have now split up I get the impression she likes me and I am meeting with her saturday as long as I dont drink too much Friday night ha ! so I guess things are going ok now. Thanks for the advice I will have to see how things go.

 

So now they broke up........is this not one of those couple fights that just take a day off and are back together? She's 16, and you're almost 19. I have been in that situation. IMO girls that young don't know anything what they want. I mean I was with a 18 year old when I was 24 and that was a bad idea, they think wayyyyyyyyyy differently. I have always been older til my current gf whos 6 months older.

 

I highly dobt it shes the opposite to him likes to go clubbing and drinking and basicly likes guys like me and regrets being with him. I said did she blame me for them splitting up which she dident and shes coming for a drink with me saturday and to get to know each other more so I guess its good.I know Dj I have had this before but hey ho.

 

if i was in your situation id just let things cool down a bit then start back up. She has a boyfriend but from what youre telling me, he's a lame. But she's still with him, im thinking there must be a reason why ( I wouldnt ask her though). Also if she cheats on her boyfriend with you, and you two become serious whos to say she wont cheat on you with someone else. You have to try to look at the situation in all points of vie. From her point of view, yours, your friends, her boyfriend, her parents and from a random guy like me. Just be honest with everything and it will work out.

 

Clearly dident read that they have split up and that she wants to spend time with me and get to know me.

 

Keep us updates. We'd love to hear anything from you. Good luck tomorrow!

 

Went out Monday had sex I stayed at hers and then yesterday she tells me shes not sure what she wants although I am not fussed. She says she really likes me and we have alot in common but she trusts her ex and shes meeting up with him saturday to see where they stand. so we have fallen out and are not texting now will keep updated.