Need guidance /: at a hard point in life

Well im fairly older than most of the users here. Basically im a 18 year old male going through a bunch of problems right now. I guess you can say im a insecure, self conscious individual. I have always been. I was always ridiculed in grade school for having a weird shaped head. People would call me big head and what not so it made me insecure and self conscious. I was always shy and this problem further increased my inability too be really social or outgoing. Anyway, I want too come to acceptance with my image and how i look. When I look at myself in the mirror, I don't really like the image I see. I see what people were saying was true. I had a accident when I was a little toddler and it caused swelling in my brain. This eventually lead my head too swell and adjust to the swelling in the brain. I always stare at people and see them happy with a significant other. I feel a sense of jealousy because I know I won't really be happy like them. I only had one girlfriend and that was in kindergarten. I was single throughout grade school. I mainly blame my head size because I think it made me look unattractive. I really want too meet a girl that will like me for me. A girl that i am attracted too. I mean I'm not ugly or unattractive facial wise but overall i don't have alot of confidence in myself. So anyway, what can i do? I want too be happy /:

 

hey friend, shit, c'mon let's get your life rolling, shall we?

I am ugly, i know it. When i was younger, i wasn't happy with how i looked. I didn't dare look at mirrors in public places, i felt i was too ugly. As i grew older though, i realised that looks are all superficial and just on the outside.

Looks do matter, perhaps for the sex appeal. But it don't mean a thing when it comes to love bro. To get a girl, a real girl that loves you, all you need is a charming heart. Looks can kiss my ass.

And i mean everything i say, and i want you to know it too.

But you got to be confident alright. You have to feel good about who you are, how you look. You have to love yourself. If you don't, how are you gonna expect others to love you?

Everybody meets with ridicules and insults at all points in their life. EVERYBODY. I mean the ugliest boy, the fattest person, the skinnest boy, the richest man, the poorest man, the best looking person, EVERYBODY will receive ridicules.

But it aint matter! What's important is HOW YOU DEAL With them. How you accept these ridicules. You can choose to let it affect you, or you can choose to ignore them. Afterall, who are these people giving you ridicules? Are they important to you at all? Why are you letting yourself get affected by it?

So bro, don't think too much about how you look or about your head. coz it aint matter

 

Fuck them. They are all most likely shallow and not even worth your time bro. You are you, you are unique, you rock whatever you got, make it work, be proud of who you are and that is the most sexy quality in a girl's pov.

 

Thanks guy. I appreciate the comments. i guess I can't change it only accept who I am.

 

You look how your meant to IMO. I think a girl will come, this girl will accept you appearances and love you for who you are, not how you look.

 

my friend I'm going to tell you something right now that will change your attitude on this.

I am ginger and I have found someone who makes me happier than anyone else possibly could, just be confident talk to this girl shy kids get nothing in life you never know until you try if your not willing to fail you wont succeed

 

If it makes you feel any better, I have a big head too and so do a few of my brothers They aren't like HUGE, but definitely larger than some people, and I just try to brush it off by making jokes about how my big head is due to me being a giant brain, etc. People just laugh with me and think its funny and it hasn't ever bugged me because of that.

I know that sometimes its very hard to be comfortable with yourself and the way you look. That is quite a natural thing actually, and its surprising how many people feel the same way about certain things on their bodies which they do not like. Eventually you just have to accept the way you were made, and be thankful for the way you are. There are so many people in the world who are born disfigured, handicapped, or with serious health problems, and those people would give just about anything to be a completely "regular" guy, even if it meant their head was a bit on the large side.

Just try and ignore it and brush it off and make jokes if people bring it up. When you can learn to laugh at yourself for your flaws, but genuinely accept what you have & be thankful for it, you will start to feel much more confident and happy with who you are. This confidence is what most girls find more attractive than your physical features, and it will make you a much more pleasant person to be around.

 

Let me tell you 1 thing.
Girls don't give a shut about what you like mate, they like guys that make them laugh.

 

Just don't look in the wrong places man, the world is at your feet and there is too much of it to cover to be worrying about how you look.

I promise you, you will get yours. Do you have a job? Any hobbies? I know you have some sort of talent or unique thing about you.

 

Start trying to become good friends with all the girls you know. Don't try to get a girlfriend, or hit on them- just make it your goal to get girls to like you as a friend. It's a funny thing how the world works. Once you start having girls in your life, more girls will want to start talking to you. It's all about jealousy... or some would say, Human Nature.

Eventually you'll end up with a nice pool of friends, and your self-confidence will improve, and you'll find talking to girls is easy as cake. Then when you find a girl that you REALLY like, it'll be easy to talk to her and spark some potential.

Good luck bud, and keep your chin up.
You'll find a lucky lady!

 

The haters are just immature and insecure. It's been proven that those who bully do so to hide their own insecurities.

You're beautiful, don't be ashamed of who you are or what you look like.

 

Thank you guys for all the supportive comments and remarks. I really appreciate it. I guess I just always put have been put down by girls but I know some can be superficial.

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