Just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years

yeah. I don't even know what to say. I'm so fucked up and sad and shit now i don't even know. It was my life and everything's going to be so different. What do I do now?

 

I'm so sorry to hear that man I remember you mentioning awhile ago that you guys were having problems and would likely be splitting up soon.

All I can say is that I know how bad it hurts. Just over a year and a half ago, my girlfriend of 3 years broke it off with me to move back to where she came from, and we were on bad terms at the time and fighting alot and so she decided she wanted to go alone. It was the single hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life, and I know how painful it is and how depressed you must be feeling right now.

All I can say is that like most things, it will take time to recovery from this. It doesn't happen overnight, and unfortunately you are probably going to hurt for quite awhile to come. Don't withdraw from everything or get yourself into any trouble over this - I would suggest leaning on your friends & family right now and trying to keep yourself busy and active around the clock to keep your mind off it. If you just sit around and wallow in your misery, you are only going to think about it constantly and you will hurt that much more.

I wish you the strength & courage you are going to need to get through this, and I'm here if you ever need to talk to somebody about this. Feel free to PM me or add my MSN at any time if you need to vent.

 

I don't have school tomorrow, should I go visit my family?

 

Yes, definitely. Go visit your family, or call up a good friend that takes you seriously and will be able to cheer you up but be able to listen to you and comfort you aswell.

When I went through all this myself, I did the exact opposite. I was OK for about a month or so because I surrounded myself with people so that I was never lonely and I tried to pretend things were normal. After that though, I completely withdrew and started isolating myself and became totally & completely depressed.

You can avoid the worst of it if you just try to stay positive & build yourself a strong support system. Let your family + friends know what is going on, so that they will know how to help you and cheer you up. There are still going to be periods of great sadness, and feelings of loss and depression, but they can be seriously minimized if you have things to distract you from how you are feeling. Human company is one of the best places to start

So go visit your family tomorrow. You will feel much better if you are with them.

 

Zerkerfist you seem like the nicest person in the world lol <3

 

Hey man I'm proud of you, I've been reading some of your threads about talking about breaking up with her for a while and you've done it.

OT: Go home and just hang with your parents go out with them and eat dinner or go out with a friend and see a movie. Just go do something that will take your mind off things for a while.

 

Thanks buddy.

 

It's about time you got rid of her bro...
Trust me your life will be 1000 x better without her in it.

 

Pretty much everyone has to go through this at some point in their life and I would say one becomes quite much more mature after getting through it. Just like after getting a real job for the first time or having to pay your own bills for the first time. It's one of those milestones in your life. It's a harsh one but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

 

Well. Lemme explain a story to ya. I do understand that it's different for most people, but this is how it went for me. (and a few others i know.)

I was dating a girl back when I was 14. Dated for 2 years, her parents abandoned her, she moved in when I was 16. Dated till I was 20, Got marreid when i got out of Basic training for the military.

3 months later I got divorced... feelsbadman.jpg

.. I honestly thought it was over, like really. How do you recover from that?

6 months after my divorce, I met the girl I'm currently dating/living with, and I couldn't be happier. I do plan on marrying this girl.. too.. lol.

If you don't know what I'm getting at yet... here's the moral of the story:

When one door closes, a million open.

 

You'll always have your family.

Head up champ, you have brighter days ahead of you

 

When I get out of a long relationship,

Day1: Let all your emotions out. I know that It can be "unmanly" to cry or let your emotions out. But find a place where you feel safe, where you are alone and just let everything out. It's good that you don't keep emotions stored inside you, it isn't healthy.

Day2: Eat some ice-cream, watch a movie. Or do something to "treat" yourself. Show yourself that you are fine without her.

Day3: Look for a replacement.

I know that this entire plan sounds cliche, but a cliche is a cliche for a reason.

 

As people have said above you need to be with either your family or a good friend that cares about you.

 

hey man i know exacly what your going through, breaking up with a girl you love is the worst! You guys probably would have talked about your future together and planned a lot of stuff, and it will hurt for a fair while, but it will get a lot better, think about how happy you were before you had her. go visit friends, change something in your room, buy yourself a gift and go out and have a laugh. Things happen for a reason, and you guys probably broke up so you can move on to a greater love that you will spend the rest of your life with, so go out and have fun, and you will love again some day.
I myself cried and was really depressed after breaking up with myself, and it takes a man to cry, it helps, so get it all out .
A few things that i found easiest to get over my ex (my first love) were going out, having a good time with friends, talking / flirting with other girls and working out. believe it or not exercise releases good hormones and energy and you will feel a lot better!
If you ever need someone to talk to, even though im pretty much a nobody on this site, feel free to pm me and i'll get back to you asap. Remembe there will ALWAYS be people to talk to and friends to hang out with. Time heals everything, jsut keep your head up and move on with your life. goodluck buddy

 

This is a good plan, but change those days to weeks and months, and add "talk to family members/friends" in there. It'll hurt, but it's for the better. Trust me.

 

Talk to family and friends, it always helps. Talk to your closest friends and let out everything you want to say.
Then you can light up a j and have a good time. I find that helps too.