Men and Women CANT be friends [Life Answer]

this is GREAT. lol

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA&sns=fb

 

Absolutely true. If only girlfriends could see this, there wouldn't be so many arguments.

 

Thats so funny!

I would try and argue and say yes, but most of my best friends are girls and most of them (not all), have hooked up with me at some point or another during our friendships though. I DO believe that its possible to be sexually attracted to one another naturally, and even go as far as hooking up, but still be "just friends", AKA you don't necessarily like each other. So just because you are sexually attracted to your friend and/or have hooked up, that doesn't necessarily mean you aren't still just friends. The whole basis of friendship between two people of the opposite sex is completely different than between those of the same sex.

I don't "like" like any of my girl friends, but they are still very attractive and its hard not to be sexually attracted to them. One of the best feelings ever is having a friend that you can casually hook up with once in awhile and not feel awkward about it whatsoever or worry about any sort of baggage coming with it.

 

Yea, no. I'm glad everyone sees it the way I do.... >_>.

 

If you mess around, I don't think that's considered being just friends. What you describe is typically referred to as friends with benefits.

 

Well honestly when it comes down to it, it's usually the men who have the feelings right? I'm sure we can all agree there are women who think differently then men. So it's kind of up to the woman from the start if she thinks you are just a friend or not. Men think one way because they tend to over analyze "signs" that women put out, while she is thinking something completely different. It might be flirting but to her it could be just that, flirting and nothing more. Men are the ones who usually get friend zoned and not the women. Hahaha, wow.

 

the reason is because you are only looking woman to have sex with her..also you got your friend.Why you will need another person to share you personal information??

 

Yeah, but the "benefits" part just entails that you both mutally acknowledge that it is ok to hook up.

The reason I only consider my girl friends "friends" and not anything more, is because there IS nothing more. There is a natural, physical and sexual attraction between us. And because we were both single at the time, and lonely and drunk or whatever the story was, we decided to hook up and just have a good time. But I would never consider dating them, I definitely do not like them anymore than a friend, and with just about all of them I have been able to hang out with them afterwards and things were completely normal, as if we had never even hooked up.

So I don't know, I think there is a giant grey area in this question. Because like I said in my previous post, the whole basis of friendship between two people of the opposite sex is completely different than a friendship between two people of the same sex. The reason? Because there is a natural, and uncontrollable physical attraction that occurs between heterosexual people around attractive members of the opposite sex.

The only exception I could really see is if your friend wasn't physically attractive (fat, smelly, just plain Jane like etc). In that case, I'm sure it would be 100% possible to be "just friends" without wanting to hook up with them.

 

Strangely enough I agree with the video.

I'm not friends with any chicks I DON'T find attractive.

 

This could be a great debate. Regardless, I had one girl I treated like a friend and felt that way about her but I still dated her (wish I didn't). Men are kind of just attracted to women and friendships are just hard due to that. Even if the person is ugly or what not, if you connect on a personal level you are going to have feelings for them.

 

Well, I disagree. My ex girlfriend is currently my best friend, but I don't think you can just put a blanket on the word "feelings" like that. What I feel for my best friend is different than a normal friend, and the same goes for her towards me, however we're not together in a relationship beyond that.

I also would like to note that most of my other actual good friends are women. People I actually trust and respect. Hell, a couple of them even describe me as their 'gal-pal', haha. Truthfully, I have felt something towards a couple of them before, but that's a superficial lust rather than love, and identifying that, on top of the fact that I'm about to spend 11 months in Japan, means I don't WANT to be anything more than friends with them.

 

the one filmed in the library sounds so seductive

 

There will always be exceptions to the rule but if I remember correctly you are not one to even want to date anymore right? And what this video is talking about is pure lust as its just them wanting to hookup and not necessarily a real relationship.

 

haha this vid is soo true

 

Hm my best friend was a girl, but i felt in love for her, lol that's was its wrong, but agree, mans and womans can be friends

 

wow this video has quite the response, haha i think it's pretty true though, us guys always want a little something more than the girls

 

Solid evidence, I agree.

 

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+13&version=NIV

Though non-religious, I wholeheartedly believe that. If I can find someone I get to know and feel genuinely for, with an intent to make things last, then I would probably take steps towards asking them out. It's not that I'm not interested in relationships (though you probably are right in not being interested with dating), I just hate the idea of lust. It tears people up and turns them against each other more often than not, then they wonder what went wrong when the inevitable breakup happens.

 

bullshit. they can be friends with benefits