My 11 yr old brother is a...

Ok, on Sunday he went mental, stabbed more door and broke it (£40 down the drain), he smashed a kids phone (another £50 mum had to pay out), he just continuously breaks things, been at highschool for 3 months, been excluded 5 times, loads of things, continuously steals money, ciggeretes, even stole my 2 big jaffa cake long things (cost £5 each, so £10) that my mum bought for her friends grandchildren.

This week has probably been one of the worse things hes done, spent $270 on RuneScape private servers...



Hes already in trouble with the police, and social workers are involved now (have been for about a month'ish).

Seriously, I hope he goes into care, my mum has actually lost child love for him, he calls her all the words under the rainbow, slag, c word, f word, sket etc etc... threatens with knifes (has actually tried to get me twice, and I think given the chance he might of actually stabbed me -.-)....

He's 11 years old don't forget and I'm 16, before hes come to me with a knife and I got him, threw the knife, called the police while pinning him down (mum went shopping) and I had to pin him down for 30 minutes... sweating so much... calls his nan, auntie etc the c word etc... I literally, hate him and hope he gets put into care, if mum was beating him and doing all this to him, she'd be gone in no time and we'd be put into care, just because he's 11 police say shit like "just talk to him" "figure out his problems" "discipline him" you can't do fuck all like this without him going off on one, tried everything...

All money I donate/have is on my brothers PP he doesn't use, which I made from services.

 

I'd suggest you inflict SEVERE discipline on this kid. I'm talking taking away everything that makes him happy. The internet, computer, TV, drugs, booze, ALL KNIVES. If he resists just smack him one. If he doesn't respond to a punch in the arm, go for his stomach, his kidneys, give him a dead leg. Anywhere that won't leave an inexplainable bruise. This method could end in either of two ways:
1. He goes apeshit and tries to stab you again. I'd take him to the police and leave him in the front office.
2. He responds and calms down.

 

Why dont you parents discipline him?

 

"why dont your parents disipline him?"

Dad doesn't live with me, mum doesn't give him money, let him on the laptop, if she sends him to his room he just runs out the house and goes to his mates, blah blah, hes already got severe disipline, we put laptops in mums car when she goes to work, hes even tried to hide the laptop... so mum can't put them in her car, we just take the internet router thing...

We'd rather him indoors than out, so he is aloud to watch TV, if hes out, he either will sleep round his mates w/out telling mum cause he knows she'll say no, and he gets brought him at like 10:30 pm cause its late and hes 11... Or he'll do something stupid, like break another valuable item she'll have to pay for.

 

Why doesnt your mum communicate with the other family not to let him round, why not phone the police to take him home, this is all because of lack of action parents have made and now in the future its coming back to bite u in the arse....why does he even have a laptop take it off him for a month or more and dont give it back till his behaviour improves?

 

This may sound extreme, but if he's that bad I would suggest finding a way to restrain him without actually harming him or pinning him down. Get him as angry as possible until he's worn himself out, ask him why he's doing all this and go on from there

 

My opinion?
No rights anymore.

hes 11.
Whenever i was 11 and did something very bad i would get a good old bloody ass-spanking.

Kids these days don't know what respect & discipline is.

In your case i would call an institution or something..
Sorry to say it, but this ain't normal anymore..

 

Get him a crate.

 

Yeah this kid is fucking nuts.

I have a fucked up brother aswell but he isn't nearly as bad.

I suggest being really strict on him and try taking him to an Physiatrist.

He really needs one, for a 11 year old to pull a knife on his big brother for almost no apparent reason is pretty crazy.

 

This, and will always be THIS.


BTW why does your 11 yr old brother have a paypal?
#2, honestly with pure size, you should beat the shit out of him since you are older, bigger, and stronger. Not for no reason but if he decides to threaten you.
#3 it sounds bad, but if your brother pulled any of that on a street, someone would stab him or shoot him. Not everybody in the world loves your brother like family would.
#4 Everything in life revolves around gravity.
Observe.
SPecimen A= you
Specimen b= Him


Specimen a= much bigger than specimen b.

Therefore.

Take his laptop
if he tries to get it back
Specimen A, puts specimen B on his ass.

Then he will learn he cannot physically fight you, so anything he wants he will need to ASK for.


If i knew i could beat my dad up i would have jacked his porsche, his house and kicked him out. But hell no. He will pick me up by my ballsack and throw me to mexico if i even shoved him, therefore when i want something i ask, and if he says no i accept it. Because if i raise my voice, i won't have one for a few days.

 

Seriously, beat the sense into him, or take him to help asap. Before it's too late, and he turns into the next Mike Myers... Because if he goes to jr high/high school and tries this stuff, someones going to hurt him, and who knows how he'll respond.

Why does he have a paypal...?

 

I'd honestly send him to one of those boot camps. Unfortunately, it's expensive :S

 

The fact he is displaying intense aggression at his age and is already neck deep in shit is a very bad thing. Unfortunately it can sometimes take awhile for authorities to actually realize how severe the situation is... like you said, they will try to brush it off as "childish behaviour" and expect your family to deal with it through normal parenting tactics (which in this case, it sounds like your family has exhausted those).

It sounds to me like he highly needs to be removed from the home environment and placed in some kind of care where he is monitered daily, and works closely with a psychiatrist and a cognitive behaviour therapist to try and reverse some of his behavioural tendencies. If he keeps this up as he gets older, he is going to risk severely hurting somebody else, and/or ending up in prison for some sort of crime. It sounds like he may have some kind of mental illness too, perhaps.

I hope things work themselves out and you guys can find him the help he needs. I feel bad for you, as I know hes probably not a bad kid inside. You mention that hes been excluded at school... maybe hes having social problems and being bullied and outcast from his peer groups, and therefore he lashes out violently at people around him. Whatever the case, good luck! I hope he can get the help he needs.

 

Wait he's 11 years old and in highschool?

You should show him prison and where he'll end up if he doesn't straighten up haha

 

11 years old + highschool was my first thought as well lol.

I just had a great idea too... you could get him on that show "Beyond Scared Straight" where they take kids to an adult prison for a few days and they have to get used to prison life. Its pretty brutal as they get bullied by the guards and prisoners and sometimes even beaten and smacked around if they continue to act like little pricks, and most kids come off the show completely reformed

 

Thats what I was thinking?


Regardless he is a young kid who is acting out for attention, and by god you people sure are giving it to him yes? I suggest you and your family simply ignore him. Don't allow him to leave the house tell the parents of all his friends that he is not allowed over there.

If anything else a simple smack or hit should do the trick and if not do it again. He is 11, and you had trouble holding him down for 30 minutes? it seems to me an 11 year old would tire very quickly from struggling to become free and eventually would give up.

I don't understand why he has a paypal at 11, and honestly a lot of people went through this phase. Spending a loved ones credit card or another through paypal on items. IT HAPPENS. Call the bank and tell them someone made fraudulent charges and it will be settled. You don't need to pay that money.

All in all though he may be testing you, and your family seeing just how far he can go. You are all afraid and frightened of this young kid when really you should be busting his ass every time he does something wrong until he learns not to do it anymore.

 

Exactly this .

Turn the tables and make his ass afraid of you . . .

 

I would say let him screw up and hit you or your mom once and then call the police because that is domestic assault, or it would be where I live at least. It appears as if you are European so I don't know how the domestic violence laws work over there.

Or the alternative of beating him with a bag of oranges or a sock with a bar of soap in it. Show him you can be as mean as he can, but that is bad advice...

 

Don't be a pussy and beat the living shit out of him. When my brother was gonig on a rampage , I smashed the shit out of him till he got scared of me and he never did it again.

Problem solved , Btw im the oldest and its your job to make him scared of you and more of a brother ( im 15 )

 

I know you are still young but maybe you should try to become a father figure to him? Now don't take this wrong way, I am only assuming things (I CANT HELP IT). But maybe your dad's absence is the cause for his behavior?