Texting/talking first

My friend and I got into an argument.
Long story short: She kept leading me on, so I finally told her what was on my mind. It ended with her telling me that she doesn't like me like that. I mainly assumed it because of the way that she was acting and because even her best friends told me.. (a girl and a gay guy).

It's really awkward now.. but I don't know if I should be the bigger person and just continue to text her and continue to post on her wall like before. She also recently had a seizure so I'm not sure if she's there 100%.

What do you think?

 

well i know that it is traditional for men to ask women out
it would be considered odd to some.

so basically what you have done is expressed your feelings while also not asking her out.

this leaves her in a limbo. she is probably thinking

A. i like him but i dont want to ask him out, it would be easier if i could just say yes

B. i like him as a friend but he is interested in me romantically. why couldnt things go back to the way they used to be


either way the answer is the same

just ask her out

if she was girl in situation A, she would say yes

if she was girl in situation B, she would say no. but the relationship wouldnt be any worse off than it is now.

 

So what should I do exactly.. because it feels more like B.

 

just ask her out
best case scenario:
she says yes, you live happily ever after
worst case scenario:
she says no, your embarrassed for a night and you move on with your life

if u dont ask her out:
she feels awkward around you, you feel embarrassed and you both most likely move on with your life.

 

Just ask her, you can't really lose anything and it wouldn't ruin your relationship. If she does say no, just play it cool and start looking for other girls.

Just out of interest, how was she acting that made you think she only likes you as a friend?

 

"10th Grade
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me.
She was my so-called "best friend".
I stared at her long, silky hair.
I wished she were mine, but she didn't notice me like that. And I knew it.
After class she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before,
and I handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek.
I wanted to tell her. I wanted her to know that I don't want to be just friends.
I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why.

11th Grade
The phone rang. It was her on the other end.
She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart.
She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did.
As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine.
After 2 hours, a Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep.
She looked at me, said "thanks," and gave me a kiss on the cheek.
I want to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends.
I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why.

12th Grade
The day before prom she walked to my locker. "My date is sick," she said.
He's not going to go. Well, I didn't have a date and in 7th grade we made a promise that if neither of us had dates we would go together just as "best friends," so we did.
Prom night after everything was over I was standing at her front door step.
I stared at her. She smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes.
I want her to be mine, but she doesn't think of me like that, and I know it.
Then she said, "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek.
I want to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends.
I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why...

Graduation Day
A day passed. A week passed. A month passed. Before I could blink, it was graduation day.
I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma.
I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it.
Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and she cried
as I hugged her.
Then, she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "You're my best friend, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek.
I want to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends.
I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why…

A Few Years Later
Now, I sit in the pews of the church. She is getting married, now.
I watched her say, "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man.
I wanted her to be mine but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it.
But before she drove away, she came to me and said, "You came!" She said, "thanks!" and kissed me on the cheek.
I want to tell her. I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends.
I love her, but I'm just too shy. And I don't know why...

Funeral
years passed, and I looked down at the coffin of the girl who used to be my best friend." At the service they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years.
This is what it read:
"I stare at him wishing he were mine. But he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it.
I want to tell him. I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends.
I love him, but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
I wish he would tell me he loved me… "

Not sure of the Author, however this is relevant to your situation.

 

+1
Cant hold back mate! Embarassment is far more worth risking than a chance at something you really want.

 

"It ended with her telling me that she doesn't like me like that"

If this isn't the clearest indication that she isn't interested, then i don't know what is. Who cares. It's one fish, out of the big blue sea.
By telling her how you feel, you have shifted all the power to her. Move on.

 

Wow, that story almost made me cry. :O

 

Finally someone said it. She obviously doesn't feel the same way you do, so asking her out would just push her away more. Just tell her that you don't want things to change and that you're okay with being just friends. It's better than losing her completely. Who knows, maybe her feelings for you will change over time.

 

Most of my advice here comes from personal experiences.
This has happened to me before, we had a bit of awkward silence for about a week but then I bigged up and continued as normal, now we are awesome friends again. I still have a crush on her but I just act like I don't. Now that I think about it I treat het like she is a male friend accept I give the odd compliment every now and then.

 

This IS the BEST poem I have ever read! (I hate poetry)

OT: Their are many girls that I wish I had asked out and knew they had feelings for me. But like this poem stated, I was too shy. I watched other guys take them for themselves.
Just tell her right now before you regret it. Their are days when I think about what my relationship could've been like if I had asked out those girls.

 

Don't talk to her. Wait for her to come to you.

 

Yeah, it is, I remember reading it years ago and being touched.

Anyways.. Are you okay with always living with a regret? Not knowing what could have happened? If you really care about this girl, then exhaust every option you have, make sure she REALLY doesn't want to be with you. What's the worst that could happen? She rejects you, and you're back at square 1 (not dating her), which is exactly where you are right now.

You have nothing to lose, but everything to gain.

 

Next time, make sure you start slowly before expressing feelings, too much progress can be too much for another person. For example, instead of expressing all of your feelings suddenly, maybe ask her out with something simple, like can you walk with me to Tesco or something, then improve, if you see rejection move a step back.

Now, just slowly talk to her again, and forget about the incidence, then it won't be awkward before, trust me. Maybe talk to her friends - she comes to you - you say hi.

 

You've GOT to step out on that limb in hopes that she is just fighting her thoughts. I know I've done it. You don't want to always wonder what could have been.

 

Wrong. Maybe she is too embarassed or scared to admit it. It isn't always "Correct" that because somebody gives off an opposite vibe, they actually mean that. Some people are just good at hiding their true feelings.