So, here's my story. It all happened over the course of a year, but ill condense it as much as possible: About a year ago, Me and one of my neighbors (we will call him D), who became real good friends at this point, started hanging out more regularly. He was a year younger than me, and his parents sheltered him, so he liked chillin with me, cause i got him out the house to hang with other friends and stuff, let him become more social. He didn't have many friends at that point, because his parents were so strict, they never let him go anywhere. But since my dad worked with his, his parents let us hang out. So i made it a point to make him some more friends and let him experience life. We also ran a WoW guild together with another mutual friend, but that's besides the point lol. Anyway, it all started when we went to a party. Me and my GF (at the time) picked him and the girl he was talking to, and we went to the party, which was for a teammates birthday. We had a good time, and when we left, 2 of my other friends wanted to come over to my house to hang out. So we all got in the car, we dropped my GF and the girl D was talking to off, and proceeded to my house. Now, i live pretty far out in the country. I have 2 neighbors, D, and this old guy... Anyway, D said he needed to stop by his house and get his laptop. That was no problem, so we drove down his drive way and up to his house, and his dad was out working on a car. I didn't think anything of it, i just waited in the car while D got his laptop. After about a minute, though, i hear screaming... "Why in the HELL is there a N****R in that car?!?!" (referring to one of my friends who rode home with me, who was black)... It was D's dad. "Son, you get your ass back inside, you aren't going anywhere else tonight!" So he went back inside, we left and later he text me saying he was sorry for the way his dad acted. It was all cool, and it all blew over in about 2 weeks, and he was able to hang out with us again. However, his dad told him he must never hang out with black people ever again (D is 17, by the way). So about 6 months went by, and me and a few of my friends were at my house going over plays and such for football. A few of them were black. Around this time, I see D's dad passing by my house in his truck. I didn't really pay attention to it at that point. The next day, however, D comes to me and tells me, "dude, my dad said i can't hang with you guys anymore because he saw black people at your house, and he's really racist". I said "That sucks, Bro. Sorry to hear that" So D wasn't allowed to chill with us anymore, but i was still cool with him and all. Then came the day i signed my scholarship for football... I will be playing for football at Alcorn State University, which is an HBCU (Historically Black College and University). I have no problem with Black people, and never have. and the college felt like a really good fit. Along with that, i will be rooming with my best friend, and we will be playing football together. I am very excited. Apparently, D's dad isn't. Because just recently, He has been going around telling people that im going to "one of those N****R colleges" and that when i come back for Christmas, people better watch out because i will be "No good. Just like a N****R himself." This OUTRAGED me. 2 of my best friends are black, and i just hate racism in the first place. TLR: One of my friends isn't allowed to hang out with me anymore, because i hang out with black people, and his dad is racist. And now is dad is talking about me because im going to a predominately black college. I don't know why i posted this... just needed to vent to people i don't really know on the internet... lol. anyway, Thoughts? Opinions? All viewpoints are appreciated.
Now, i'm not the type of person to seek fights or act violent, but I think you should confront him about it and tell him off. What he is saying is completely irrational and racist, so maybe just talk to him or get some of your black friends to do something?
This persons dad is simply an ignorant, blatant idiot. There's no simpler way of stating it. Racism has no place in society, anyone who prejudices someone on their colour of skin should be ashamed of themselves. At the end of the day, it's not the boys fault that his father is like that, you just need to hope that he doesn't begin to be brainwashed by his father and continue his ideologies. You should be proud to be an anti-racist, I wish you the best at your university, remember you always need to stand up to these people and challenge their opinions.
what a ridiculous person D's dad is. It sounds like someone really needs to confront him, but the way you potray him tells me that he will remain as ignorant as he is now... Sigh.. it must be really sad to be in a situation like yours.
His dad is a jackass. If he knew anything, the word "Nigger" means IGNORANT. So therefore, a white, or a black person could be a nigger. And since his dad is being ignorant, just call him a nigger.
Good point! I don't ever associate with his dad anymore. neither does my dad. D said he is pretty close to moving out with his mom, cause his mom and his dad are getting divorced from what i've heard. But i guess I'll see how it goes down.
Long story short. His dad is a major douche bag. I'm not racist but I tell racist jokes, some of my friends are black and we all tell racist jokes to each other, we don't take personal because it's a joke and it's not directed at us (or if it is directed we still lol because it's a joke). It's a shame people believe what they think is right though.
Wow! I knew that extremely racist people still existed in the world, but I haven't seen/heard of somebody recently who has been so publicly vocal about their views of black people.. this kid's dad is disgusting. I think Grrr summed it up when he said this man is simply an ignorant, blatant idiot. There is really nothing you can do about it, unless you wish to confront him face-to-face and demand that he stops commenting on your business and telling people that you "will be changed" after going to a primarily black college. Unless you live in an extremely racist town (where alot of people share this guy's views), then you shouldn't worry too much about the things this man is saying. All he is doing is making himself look like a major racist jackass and making lots of enemies. It's only a matter of time before somebody else hears the way he is talking and decides to go over there and have a chat with this man himself.
Yeah, my town isn't incredibly racist as a whole, but they do have some ignorant people around here who are incredibly racist. I'm learning to not be too bothered by it, but i just can't imagine how my black friends, and all black people for that matter, feel. Some people think they are bad for simply being born a certain color. It's just insane. I never really imagined that in this day and age, we would be dealing with people who still have a close minded view on different races and cultures. I guess there will always be those kind of people in this world.
Sad to say, there are just people out there who are racist for no reason at all. They see something on the TV and believe it's real, they just stereotype people and are influenced by the media too much. I guess you can't do anything but you know black people aren't bad and they aren't influencing you to do silly or dangerous things, some people are just stubborn and can't change.
That is very racist don't pay any attention to people like that. Completely blank him or not talk to him but you could do something like send him an anonymous letter abusing him and what not.
I think that you are just going to have to live with the fact that some people are racist, and one of them happened to be your friend's Dad. (< that came out a little "harsh", but it wasn't intended to be). You could still meet D when hid Dads not around, or over Facebook or phone/text or something?
