Need some Advice:/

Okay so, about 4-5 months back, this guy kissed my gf and asked her to hook up (she ofc said no). So of course I texted him being all friendly and asking what happened. He said to stfu so i just talked to my gf about it and found out it was in the car and he just leaned over and pecked her on the lips. I was upset at first, but no big deal. So now I see him in the hallway of HS (High School) and am Like "HEY insert name here!" (censored his name). Then he stopped right infront of me on a busy hallway and not wanting to stop I walked to his right pushing him into the other side. He then pushed me into a girl I was talking to (not my gf). She got hit into the wall pretty hard (Im a 180lb 5'5" male), so i was walking asking her if she was okay and I told her that kid was a douche that pushed me. So he starts talking shit but I keep walking then he just walks straight when I take a left.

Later on I texted him, this is our converstion:

The real question is what do I do. I want to go into homeland security so having a restraining order on someone looks bad and having a criminal record looks bad. So what do I do?

 

Seems like you're being a bitch, calling him a fag and threatening to report him to the police. Honestly, what do you want to hear from me? Lol.

So basically, you want to ruin his life by trying to get something on his record because he kissed your girl?

Priorities brother.

 

Bro you get alot of people on here that will tell you to just punch on with hime even tho half of them would just basicaly hide away. But the best peice of advice i can give you is just drop it, and yeah he did kiss your girl you have a right to be pissed off about it but don't report it to the police yett.. if he does go to throw a hit (by the sounds of him he wouldnt even try, he just talks him self up alot judging by those texts) let him hit you. but try be more of a man and walk away and get him for assualt. i am 17 and i already have a not bad but a few things on my record from not walking away; a few things i have is drunk and disorderly and a few assualt charges. im not trying to talk myself up in anyway because i am not proud of it and i have my little brothers who looks up to me and same with my lil sisters since my dad walked out. even tho we havent met just know chances are someone is looking up to you.

 

Dont sweat it - these things happen, don't forget about it, but don't do anything about it.
Best if you leave it be.

 

He didn't call him a fag.. Read the thread before you post.

Anyway...
Just wait and see what he does, if he has an ounce of intelligence henisnt going to want a criminal record, so he'll leave you alone.

 

My advice, don't do anything till he does something to you, or your girlfriend again. If he does, confront him, ask him why, if he pushes you, or hits you just smack him back.

 

Don't be stupid, and don't let him get to you. Look at it like a real life troll.

He made his shot at your girl, your girl turned him down. Its not going to happen between them, nothing to worry about, and if it IS something your worrying about, you should be questioning yourself why you don't trust your girlfriend, instead of thinking about how much of a douche this guy may be.

Don't fight him, won't get you anywhere, and even worse, depending on where you do it, and what he does, it could get you in some major trouble, which by the sound of it he would love to see. Just ignore the guy, it's the best you can do. If you GENUINELY feel like your in danger, or your girlfriend is, yes get a restraining order; but that's not something you should jump to conclusions on, something like that could simply make things worse.

It'll pass, ignore him and let it be.

 

Hey, just forget about it. This kid obviously has issues, and is kind of a douche bag. He seems to be jealous of you/your relationship with your girl. Its not worth it. Just tell him to fuck off. Stop talking to him. If he tries to fight you, fight back. Otherwise just give him space, its not worth it

 

Would she be worth a fight?

 

Hmmm, weird situation here. Personally, I HATE getting in fights with kids standing up for a girlfriend, but sometimes its something that you just have to do. This kid sounds like a total jerk off from what I can read, and it sounds like he started this whole thing by making a move on your girlfriend out of the blue. And she obviously didn't enjoy it, and did nothing to encourage him further, so he should learn his place and just back off.

So far, I think you have handled the situation in a very mature manner by trying not to resort to violence and trying to smooth things out on your own with words. However, he seems like a tough cookie to get through to... You have a few options here. You could either:

a) Try to get a restraining order against him like you said. Although, I highly doubt you will be able to do this. A retraining order is serious business, and is usually only granted to somebody that is actually stalking you and/or repeatedly harassing you. Plus its a pain in the ass to go through and probably not your best option.

b) Try and talk to a teacher, principle, or parent. Somebody who will get involved and maybe offer this kid some consequences if he continues to threaten you and harass your girlfriend. Also - if your girlfriend makes it very clear that she does not want this guy touching her/interacting with her in any way, then theres a higher chance that you could get some sort of authority involved. Harrassing girls usually isn't taken to lightly, especially when there is unwanted sexual advances involved (such as kissing her, grabbing her etc. Often the police can get involved in serious matters like this).

c) Just ignore the kid. Tell your girlfriend to stay far away from him, and you do the same. Ignore all his threats and ignore what people say about the situation and just walk away unscathed and let him lose interest in the situation. Hopefully he will not make any more moves towards your girlfriend after this point and there will be no future conflicts. You could also get your girlfriend to talk to him herself and just make it VERY clear that she does not appreciate the advances he made, and that it is NOT ok for him to do that in the future, ever. Then continue along with option C.

d) Use violence to solve your problem. This option is not highly reccomended, as you can get yourself into trouble AND its just not the best way to solve things. But sometimes violence and/or intimidation is the only solution to these kinds of problems. So if they kid threatens you again, or pushes you are anything alone those lines, surprise him with a well placed punch to his chin or nose. I've had similar situations in the past where its not even necessary to beat the kid to death, simply knock him down and get on top of him holding his throat and look him into the eyes with your first raised. Then kindly explain to him that you are going to get up and walk away, but if he makes any further unwanted advances against your GF and anymore threats against you, you will finish what you started. If you absolutely HAVE to resort to violence, this is one of my favourite methods as you don't have to hurt anybody too badly, and it REALLY gets the point across. Most kids will be honestly thankful that you didnt kick the living shit out of them even though they were in an extremely vulnerable position and you could have easily given them a savage beating. 90% of the fights I have won have ended with that exact scenario I described. I have rarely ever wanted to get into the fight in the first place, and ending it like that not only sends a serious message, but often earns you even more respect than if you had beat the living shit out of the kid.

The situation sucks man, I know that there is alot of angles here. You want to protect your girlfriend and yourself, and of course your reputation. If this kid thinks you are a pussy and doesn't get the message then he may be unwilling to back away. Just whatever you do, don't give up. If you love your girl, then fighting to protect her is worth it no matter the cost. "Fighting" doesnt necessarily always have to be violent though, just do what it takes. Good luck man.

 

i would of beat the kids ass already, kissing my girlfriend isnt something a kid will get away with, dont even try to be nice to him