Friend and his problem.

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Well, recently, one of my close friends has been caught with marijuana in his room. And his parents never knew he was using cannabis, were outraged and grounded him harshly, and did other things not going to get into that. This is no biggie as I've been caught before but not with possession or use, but other things. Anyways, I'm not going to get much into details as it is a long story, but being the person that he is (thinking hes all positive and confident and whatnot) decides he is going to convince his parents that smoking cannabis is ok, they are strongly against it...(which won't happen, he's just getting into more deep shit this way, I've never tried convincing my parents since I know I won't get far because, let's face it it's a drug (even though MANY people consider it being just a plant), light drug compared to others I've had, but still a drug as it alters the body in some shape or form). Now, don't get me wrong, I'm totally for cannabis and usage, If I wasn't on my T-break right now (day 11/60 ) I'd be puffin' away as I would type, however, I wouldn't get to the point that I'm lying and disrespecting anyone that lives with me in order to make it ok that I'm going to smoke.
--The Problem--
Well, we were friends since a long time ago. Since 8th grade, and 5 years have passed by of being good friends (although he started leaving me for those half-brained morons you consider "cool", no offense, but you know who I'm talking about, I'm just the kind of person that is friends with usually everyone, you probably know where I'm going here that he is ditching his old REAL friends, etc, I'm not getting into this, as I don't have the energy to type all of this). ANYWHO.... We started using the herb a while ago then later on using it everyday, which is not a problem yet. I remember him saying before we had a sesh,"Don't become one of those people that ends up being a stoner, and that is all he thinks about and does nothing but it all day". I told him, "I wont". Well years passed, and I ended up just being a causal user of it, everyday, which didn't affect me much, I can easily take a break and don't think about it everyday. He, however, changed dramatically, everytime we hang out he mentions pot and if we don't use it the time we hang out he thinks it's wasted time. I'm really getting side tracked for some reason and I don't know why, but anyways, he got caught (most people do at some point). And then he tries to convince his parents to let him use it inside the house, and is LYING to them in order to convince them. This is what he did that basically got me pretty upset, (I usually go with flow, let things pass, go with whatever life offers me, and don't get mad), but this was pretty upsetting, he told his parents that ALL of his friends smoke, (even those that don't), and I specifically told him, "dude keep me out of this, you got caught, don't deep yourself deeper", he agreed, and said he wouldn't do that anyways. Today he told me straight up, and his parents always considered me to be his top friend and one they can always trust, so when he said that everyone of his friends does it, they even asked him, "even [me]??", and he said yes. So now they say that he cannot go anywhere with me or hang out with me, in fact, he told me today he wasn't grounded and so I thought he wasn't and we hung out at this place we always went to since we began being friends, his mom calls him up and says how he cannot be hanging out with me, and that he is probably doing drugs with me, and he said no, but his parents said he needs to come home right now and he cannot be outside. Then he asked if I could come over, they said no, I must just drive him home and so I did, he also was trying to encourage me to go into his house because he wanted to borrow me some shirts (doubt this was the real reason). And I refused, because his parents are already mad at me and I don't want to cause a mess and fights, or be questioned by his parents, I know his parents and I know what would happen if I went inside, Most likely he was just using me as a backbone in case his parents would start arguing that I was "healed" by marijuana (he also told them it treated my depression I had which is not even true because during when I experienced my depression and panic attacks I didn't and wasn't using it for months, until I finally found out that positive thinking is the key to happiness). So I declined, and then he goes on arguing, that this is why I'm no success at anything and this is why I'm bad at life and all this stuff (which isn't even true). So I ended up dropping him off at his house and just drove away.

In my opinion, he is really irresponsible, and since he is still under his parents' roof he should at least respect them in a way, and let them make the rules. He also became a liar, he even said one of his friends that NEVER tried pot in his life smoked weed before a exam and got the highest score out of his class. Which didn't happen, why is he like this? I don't understand why.. I don't think I'd EVER disrespect my parents like that, especially not if one of my parents (one of his parents) is diagnosed with cancer. He also said that weed would help cure it, I do also believe it has medicinal value in that way, but it is straight up illegal in this state, and If I was diagnosed with cancer and I had a son that said here try this (some drug I thought was really bad), it can cure your cancer, I'd be really offended.

I just wrote all this just to vent, and to hear your opinions of this.

Once again... no, tl;dr, any post I see that says that, I will report, I do not tolerate spam.

 

It does sound like a dickmove on his behalf. Maybe you should reconsider your friendship with him, after all he could continue lying and make your situation worse. If his parents lighten up about the whole smoking thing (he sounds like he's not going to slow down any time soon regardless of his parents wishes), maybe it would help lighten the burden on the whole situation. You can either do that or straight up tell his parents he's been lying and see how they feel about that.

 

Thanks for response, I appreciate it.
I've been trying to reconsider friendship as he only wanted to hang out if he needed a ride or his other friends didn't hang out, also we talk on STEAM, and I'm usually the one that has to talk first, otherwise we could not even talk for months, then later on when he needs something he calls me then says, why I'm mad or why I'm not talking, which is ridiculous.

Doubt his parents will lighten up, they are after all really strict, and I can't really go straight up to them and talk to them, first of all they wont believe me anymore, second my friend will get severely angry at me, if they don't want me hanging out with him, I'm confident that they don't want to see me around if they didn't even want me to hang out with him inside. But, o well, he's not much of a loss of a friend since he's just been getting more distant.

 

At the end of the day, some people aren't that great of people. Don't take this as an offense, but this guy doesn't seem like a friend at all.

This reminds me of a guy who did a similar thing to me, except he just hangs out with stoners 24/7 now and doesn't really acknowledge me that much anymore. I decided I didn't need him to give me shit like that and moved on.

That's what I think you should do - if he's going to be a bitch like that, don't be friends with him. Show him what he's missing out on - a good friend like you.

 

You're right, whenever I'm around him, he always usually makes me feel worse about myself, he ALWAYS tries to lead everything, and make the decisions on his own, without really asking for mine. I told him, I recently made 120 dollars within a 2 day span, and he told me I should buy a vaporizer instead of saving up for what I really want (I just want a smaller car than my current one), and yeah. Thanks for the input. This meant a lot to me.