comming out!

how do you guys suggest i come out to my freinds. some of them no but ive asked them to keep it secret untill i was ready. now i think i am. but im unsure on how to do this.

 

Just try telling them with confidence. Can't imagine how hard it would be for you, but try your best. Your friends should be able to understand, and it shouldn't change anything between you.

 

if they true friends, theyll understand.




hopefully...

 

Well do you think you would rather tell them all at once when you guys are all together, just to get it over with? Or would you rather talk to each one individually one by one?

I can't imagine how difficult something like that must be. If I were you I would probably start by trying to think up my action plan of when and how I was going to bring it up, just so you kind of have an outline of what to do. If you don't want to do that, you could always just wait until the next time you are having a deep discussion with your friends, whether its one of them or all at once. Take the reigns for a second and steer the conversation towards your sexuality and then just tell them. Your friends are your friends and they should understand and respect you regardless of your sexuality. If you are looking for the exact words to say, just say something like:

"Listen guys. You guys are my best friends and you all mean so much to me, and so I always want to be honest and truthful with you. But there is a big part of my life that I have kept a secret from you guys, and from everyone for that matter, but I really need to tell somebody and get this off my chest. I know you guys won't judge me.... [insert phrase of your choice here]"

Good luck man. I think you will feel much better once you get it out there. That is a pretty big secret to carry around.

 

man this is why i love sythe. your guys are so accepting and just plain awesome! ty for the advice!! <3

 

Well when you say coming out, I'm assuming coming out of the closet.

If these people are truly your friends, they would not care AND/OR have already knew but just never was sure. I find these kind of curve-balls really show you who your friends are and use this to your advantage.

 

No problemo man!! That is why I love Sythe too Back on topic though, just go get 'er done! I think it is one of those things that are just going to feel so much better once its off your chest and you can finally just fully be yourself. I'm sure your friends will understand too.. if they don't, I would not advise keeping those people as close friends any longer.

True friends will stick by your side no matter what, and would never cast you aside for something as insignificant as your sexuality. They will love you for who you are, and what you are, no matter who that person is.

 

It's best to just go ahead and tell them
If they find out another way they may feel betrayed that you didn't tell them.

I had a little trouble from my dad when I said I was bi, but he is a major homophobe, he seems to be ok with it now though.

 

well i told them... and i guess on of my friends(i told him to keep it secret) told the whole fucking school and i get a skype saying that im gonna get my ass kicked on monday... this is great.... so should i go to school tomorrow? or skip and get introuble with my parents?

 

Go to school, and show them you don't care. This is who you are. Screw it if they can't understand. You are you and that is all there is to it. Stay strong.

 

Go to school, if they do hit you.. Hit them back.

If they say anything to you say "you seem to be paying more attention to me now you know am I'm gay, do you fancy me or something?".

Bullies are always going to hate no matter what the reason.

 

Haha I love that!

OT: Go to school, show them you are fearless and do not care what they think. It will work out for the better. And also I suggest you look for new friends because a true friend would not spread around a secret you didn't want known.

 

Sorry to hear what your 'friend' did. At least you know he's a cunt now and you know who your real friends are. I would go in and show them you don't care, if they give you trouble you give them trouble back ten times as hard. Let us know what happens when you get home from school if you wish to tell us what happened. Remember they are not better than you in anyway, everyone encounters bullies in their life sooner or later.

Good luck on Monday.