An issue...

So I want to start off by telling you all some information about me so you can get some idea to what my life is like.

I'm 17, pretty good looking, great with people(I'm very open about my life, not shy at all), and I'm not rich or poor, but I consider myself to be upper middle class. I'm very intelligent(unlike most of my friends), I smoke weed on a daily basis(imagine that, a smart stoner) and I would consider myself to be pretty popular, although I don't really think about it much.

So now to the reason I'm asking for your input. I have an issue with girls, I am fine with everything, I'm not a virgin I've had sex with 7 different girls, but it seems like I can never get past the not serious phase in a relationship.

So to further explain I'll tell you my most recent affair where I ran into this issue. I was talking to this girl, very attractive I'd say, shes great and I like her a lot(still like her) But I ended it with her after we talked for like 3 weeks. And I randomly did it! I suddenly got this feeling that I was like trapped and couldn't enjoy my life with other friends, while being with her in a "serious relationship". Me and this girl had sex, and I want to let you know I'm not one of those douchy guys who fuck a girl and just leave her.. I actually like this girl and when she asked me why I was ending our relationship I couldn't even give her an answer, actually I sprang to make up answers like shes kinda crazy when she's drunk.

Is this because she just wasn't the right one? I have this feeling that if something isn't totally right, its not worth pursuing. I have it in many other aspects of my life too, I feel like I won't take an AP class in school if I don't plan on majoring in what it entails in college.

I realize this might be a little messy and confusing, so if you have any further issues please ask.
I'm really just asking for advice, I loved spending time with this girl and all of the sudden I woke up one day and just wasn't feeling it...

 

I somewhat had/have the same concept as you. I got straight a's smoked weed, and didn't do above and beyond if it didn't benefit me in the future(like AP classes,etc.)

I really wouldn't think of it to much. You're in highschool and shouldn't have a "serious relationship". You should be going out, hanging out with friends and just overall having a fun time.

Regarding the school thing. I just think thats logical, why put in extra effort in something you will never use ever again.

Just my 2 cents.

 

Haha thats great that you think like that about school. Thanks for your input

 

You either have to find a girl who enjoys the same things as you or find a girl who maybe isn't so clingy. You are 17 there is no rule that you have to have a serious relationship though. you could also try hanging out with these girls without bangin them and take it slow. If you don't want to be in a relationship don't be in one. Sounds like you just like your space. You will eventually meet a girl probably and the roles will be reversed. You will want to be with them and she won't want to be tied down.

the most basic of answers Just do whatever you enjoy. Girlfriend or single if you are happy who the hell cares. When you really want to settle down with someone you will.

 

You won't be able to get serious relationship without being honest to her. She'll eventually find out and will be hurt.

 

Serious relationships are about commitment. Basically if and when you are ready to give up on partying and the "crazy" lifestyle, and are actually looking for that someone that you may spend the rest of your life with, then yea you are definitely going to have to give up a lot of things for her. The parties, the exsessive drinking, sleeping with a lot of girls (clearly), and so on.

But as it seems you like to be "free" as do a lot of guys your age, then there is nothing wrong with that. Eventually you have to grow up and commiting to a girl is a normal part of life. Untill then, enjoy your freedom while you can.

If you find yourself 40, single, and still afraid to commit. Then you have gotten yourself a problem. But being 17, nah that's normal.

 

Your seventeen?
who wants a serious relationship when they are at that age?
serious.. just go and fuck arround and play charlie sheen

i've had a girlfriend from i was 15-17.. i was cheating alot and such.. just aint ready at that age i thing.. well ofc you may be but it aint normal to have a relationship at that age i think!