Constantly happens?

[noobyfooby]

I've joined a new school about 6 months ago and I made this friend, 2 weeks in he has been such a great friend showing me around the school and helping me out. The next week, he stabs me in the back by spreading around a rumor that I was homosexual and I like boys and don't get this wrong, I'm not homosexual. So whenever I went up to a bunch of groups with boys, they literally ran away inside the library and such to avoid me and the girls were the only ones left so as soon as I went to a few girls to just talk and stuff, people thought I was really homosexual/gay because that's what stereotypically goes around that if your a homosexual then you are obviously hang around with Girls. Then I found out from a loyal friend, the only one I had that my friend has been spreading the rumors. I got so angry, I wanted to beat him up but I left it and then I earned a few friends back but it still went round my whole year. Then eventually 4 months into the school, it carried on and carried on and throughout that time he has said sorry and I've forgiven him. Yesterday, he said sorry again and I forgave him again and I forgot to mention when I'm with a bunch of boys out in cinema and he's there, he would try call me homosexual to impress other people or make them laugh and call me Chow from hangover 2 or from videos of men who are gay. I don't think this too seriously, but it has gone too far and I want it to stop but fighting really is the only option I have. Today at the swimming pool, he really took the limits and I just want it all to stop.

 

[Egu]

Bullying is NEVER to be tolerated. Homosexuality is a major thing, and shouldn't be frowned upon in any sense.

I think you should take legal action about this. You need to put your foot down and say "THIS IS ENOUGH!". You need to be the adult in this situation, even if other kids deem upon it in the future. Do the right thing, and tell them no. Stand your ground and fight if you have to.

 

[Rememberme57]

People like to talk nasty and behind peoples backs because they feel threatened. If you resort to fighting your just going to get your self into trouble.I suggest you talk to a school counselor. Who ever started it would most likely end up worse from what they can do then what a fight would do.

 

[noobyfooby]

Bullying is NEVER to be tolerated. Homosexuality is a major thing, and shouldn't be frowned upon in any sense.

I think you should take legal action about this. You need to put your foot down and say "THIS IS ENOUGH!". You need to be the adult in this situation, even if other kids deem upon it in the future. Do the right thing, and tell them no. Stand your ground and fight if you have to.

People like to talk nasty and behind peoples backs because they feel threatened. If you resort to fighting your just going to get your self into trouble.I suggest you talk to a school counselor. Who ever started it would most likely end up worse from what they can do then what a fight would do.

Both of you speak the truth but he was the only person that helped me when I first joined but has turned into an enemy several times and telling someone in authority would give me the label of being a "snitch" and I would loose even more friends than I did with that whole Rumor.

 

[noobyfooby]

Bullying is NEVER to be tolerated. Homosexuality is a major thing, and shouldn't be frowned upon in any sense.

I think you should take legal action about this. You need to put your foot down and say "THIS IS ENOUGH!". You need to be the adult in this situation, even if other kids deem upon it in the future. Do the right thing, and tell them no. Stand your ground and fight if you have to.

People like to talk nasty and behind peoples backs because they feel threatened. If you resort to fighting your just going to get your self into trouble.I suggest you talk to a school counselor. Who ever started it would most likely end up worse from what they can do then what a fight would do.

Both of you speak the truth but he was the only person that helped me when I first joined but has turned into an enemy several times and telling someone in authority would give me the label of being a "snitch" and I would loose even more friends than I did with that whole Rumor.

 

[Aroxez]

Talk to an adult, regardless of if people think you're a "snitch", it has to come to an end. I know if I were in your position, I wouldn't tolerate it one bit. You're just better off in general telling someone higher-up in a sense.

 

[noobyfooby]

Talk to an adult, regardless of if people think you're a "snitch", it has to come to an end. I know if I were in your position, I wouldn't tolerate it one bit. You're just better off in general telling someone higher-up in a sense.

If you went to the school I went to, being a snitch is a big thing and what type of higher-ups would you suggest?

 

[Suicida]

Teacher? Student Councillor?

Even your mum and dad.

If all else fails, hit the gym.

Good luck!

 

[I Mark I]

I'm sort of the more aggressive person, I don't take shit like that from other people. In your position I'd probably confront the guy and ask him what he's trying to achieve, but I'd still probably end up in a fight. If you'd lose friends from telling a counselor or teacher that your ex "friend" spread a bullshit rumor, you probably don't need those guys either.

 

[Marckiee]

Honest answer. If you can fight, beat his ass. People who say "take legal action" know nothing about this type of stuff. What are you going to say? "This kid at school told people I'm gay.". Like, seriously? Don't do something ridiculous like that. Just kick the kids ass if you think you can. Problem solved.

 

[Noodles :)]

How old are you?
It sounds like you're like in the first year of highschool.
All guys joke about there mates being homosexual, it's normal.
He calls you gay, just call him it back. If he gets pissed off just say 'now you know how I felt'.

 

[JohnK]

Confront him, aggressively. In front of a group of people. Make him look absolutely pathetic.

Good luck.

 

[nosanov123]

Thats just childish.. People thought I was as well because my old bestfriend is gay, I just ignored it and just made it clear to the people I cared about I wasn't and didn't care about the rest.

Also I would screw around with some people who called me gay and call then hot and walk away.. rofl...

 

[Warjunkie]

Okay. I get you're still in school, OP.

Honestly, if you're in highschool right now, don't bitch out. You could take the moral high ground, but I sincerely don't recommend it. Kick the kid's ass. If you don't, you'll just be the bitch in your school, and have to take that shit every day.

Offtopic though; You say this constantly happens? You're doing something to get people to think you're gay. Stop doing that.

 

[gds08]

From what it sounds you wouldnt have to necessarily "beat hes ass" but go up to him, stand over him if you can or just look threatening. Say to him something like "Whats your problem are you jealous of me so you have to spread rumours like this? Grow up" Unless you want to keep him as a friend which I definitely wouldn't. Make sure he isn't just kinda having a joke you know but by the sounds of it he's trying to show off.

 

[stuffs]

I'm sorry, but people who say "tell someone about it" are idiots, to put it bluntly. If you think people laugh at you now and think you're a pansy, just imagine if you go running to a teacher/principal/cop.

You have to handle this yourself. Maybe fighting isn't the answer. Maybe it is. It depends if he's all talk or if he can back up his shit. There's only one way to find out. Confront him about it, and don't take no for an answer. If he says he's not doing it, call him out on his bullshit. If he says "okay I'm so sorry, I'll stop", keep threatening him. Let him know you're going to beat the shit out of him if you hear him say one more negative thing behind your back. If he seems intimidated, then you don't need to fight him. Just make sure he understands you're the alpha, and if he talks shit about you, he's going to pay the price.

If he can actually back up his talk though (Doubt it, but who knows), then the only solution is to end up fighting him. Just do NOT confront him if you don't have the intention to fight. If you try to act tough and intimidate him, and it back fires, and he tries to fight you, while you walk away and play the part of the pacifist, it's just going to reinforce what everyone has been thinking, and the rumors he's been spreading.

Don't even bother with his friendship right now, it's not worth salvaging. A friend wouldn't do shit like that. Trust me.

Edit: Forgot to say.. if you've never been in a fight before, make sure you know what you're doing before you confront him. Getting the shit beat out of you isn't going to help your situation either.

 

[noobyfooby]

Honest answer. If you can fight, beat his ass. People who say "take legal action" know nothing about this type of stuff. What are you going to say? "This kid at school told people I'm gay.". Like, seriously? Don't do something ridiculous like that. Just kick the kids ass if you think you can. Problem solved.

That's so true, legal action don't do shit. Thanks.

How old are you?
It sounds like you're like in the first year of highschool.
All guys joke about there mates being homosexual, it's normal.
He calls you gay, just call him it back. If he gets pissed off just say 'now you know how I felt'.

It's not the first year and its been going on for 6 months straight, a bit stupid right? And calling him gay back doesn't make a difference and he's got everyone doing it. Whole year > Me

Confront him, aggressively. In front of a group of people. Make him look absolutely pathetic.

Good luck.

Thanks

Thats just childish.. People thought I was as well because my old bestfriend is gay, I just ignored it and just made it clear to the people I cared about I wasn't and didn't care about the rest.

Also I would screw around with some people who called me gay and call then hot and walk away.. rofl...

LOL I would have no friends after that but thanks for the suggestion

Okay. I get you're still in school, OP.

Honestly, if you're in highschool right now, don't bitch out. You could take the moral high ground, but I sincerely don't recommend it. Kick the kid's ass. If you don't, you'll just be the bitch in your school, and have to take that shit every day.

Offtopic though; You say this constantly happens? You're doing something to get people to think you're gay. Stop doing that.

It's not something I'm doing, just a rumor to impress others because he knows that I won't do anything because we are good mates but something has to be done.

From what it sounds you wouldnt have to necessarily "beat hes ass" but go up to him, stand over him if you can or just look threatening. Say to him something like "Whats your problem are you jealous of me so you have to spread rumours like this? Grow up" Unless you want to keep him as a friend which I definitely wouldn't. Make sure he isn't just kinda having a joke you know but by the sounds of it he's trying to show off.

Thanks for that.

I'm sorry, but people who say "tell someone about it" are idiots, to put it bluntly. If you think people laugh at you now and think you're a pansy, just imagine if you go running to a teacher/principal/cop.

You have to handle this yourself. Maybe fighting isn't the answer. Maybe it is. It depends if he's all talk or if he can back up his shit. There's only one way to find out. Confront him about it, and don't take no for an answer. If he says he's not doing it, call him out on his bullshit. If he says "okay I'm so sorry, I'll stop", keep threatening him. Let him know you're going to beat the shit out of him if you hear him say one more negative thing behind your back. If he seems intimidated, then you don't need to fight him. Just make sure he understands you're the alpha, and if he talks shit about you, he's going to pay the price.

If he can actually back up his talk though (Doubt it, but who knows), then the only solution is to end up fighting him. Just do NOT confront him if you don't have the intention to fight. If you try to act tough and intimidate him, and it back fires, and he tries to fight you, while you walk away and play the part of the pacifist, it's just going to reinforce what everyone has been thinking, and the rumors he's been spreading.

Don't even bother with his friendship right now, it's not worth salvaging. A friend wouldn't do shit like that. Trust me.

Edit: Forgot to say.. if you've never been in a fight before, make sure you know what you're doing before you confront him. Getting the shit beat out of you isn't going to help your situation either.

This has been the best response so far but the thing is he's fat but when it comes down to fights he always go sorry man its a joke and becomes a pussy but then if you beat the shit out of him, then he'll try get other people in the year to fight for him as he's always done this for all of his fights but the people he gets are very good friends of mine but I joined 6 months ago so I don't know who they would back?

 

[JC Day]

Just beating his ass won't do you any good bro, he'll just keep calling you whatever he want's for fun unless you kill him. It's a disorder, one day he might seem to be a good guy/friend the next day he starts being a total fag again. I suggest you go straight to him treat him as an enemy, never accept his apology again, slap him in the face (in a manly way):nuts:. and spit on his ugly face.

Once both of you are done fighting, stay cool and act normal.
Now after class ask a friend to go with you, pay them if necessary. Go hide somewhere in the bushes and wait for him.

(Be sure both of you are wearing a bonet or mask)
Now tell a friend of yours to confront him once he passes by. Ask your friend to tell him his been a piece of sh**.

Let him talk shit first to gather up some steam. Once you're fully fired up for the resbaK, PJ THE FUCK OUT OF HIM! have him cry for his mom. Vid that with your cellphone. Put it in youtube.

Now tell your friends to watch it.
(I suggest not to tell anyone that you and your friend did that.)

If not you can tell him to stop bein an ass or you post that vid.

Problem solved, you can now sleep nice and quietly.

 

[True_dream]

Be a snitch and tell on him first. Me, I would beat the kid till he was bleeding, but that's just me.

 

[Confidence]

Fighting isn't the option. In this case, I would just confront him about it personally. If you stand around and do nothing, the shit is only going to rain on you harder.