Are you in a relationship? [Poll]

[crosspaintball]

I am. I think its worth it. I don't think you should go out with random people though just cuz you kind of like them. I think you should only seriously date if you could see yourself having a long lasting relationship. Otherwise its not worth the hardship. Just my opinion though

 

[Swan]

By that principle, it's the same as saying that a 9 year old and a 14 year old being in a relationship is the same as an 18 year old and a 23 year old, which is obviously completely ludicrous. I personally wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anymore who's more than a year or two younger.

Presently I'm single

You seem to be forgetting the obvious social and physical barrier known as puberty.

 

[ChristmasCracker]

I am, been with Angela for 4 and a half years, or something.
Oct 13 is our 5year.
Engaged since July 28 2010.
Friends since god was born.

 

[Swin]

I'm seeing a girl now, we've been seeing eachother for a few months.

Just taking it easy and slow, it's cool

 

[CMotDibbler]

You seem to be forgetting the obvious social and physical barrier known as puberty.

This is the barrier from which my statement is derived. An individual changes severalfold over the puberty period (which isn't '13'; it's a several year process). And it's for this reason that I don't think you can apply your logic to this situation. In your opening sentence you seemed to jump to the defence of your relationship, and I'm merely saying I disagree with said defence.

As I've said, I'm not openly against it, I'm merely saying that there's a fundamental flaw in your logic due to the differences in maturity between 13 year olds and 18 year olds. That said, I don't advocate this sort of situation either... I have a 13 year old sister, and if she was involved with someone who was 16, even 15, I'd probably have something to say about the situation.

 

[Swan]

This is the barrier from which my statement is derived. An individual changes severalfold over the puberty period (which isn't '13'; it's a several year process). And it's for this reason that I don't think you can apply your logic to this situation. In your opening sentence you seemed to jump to the defence of your relationship, and I'm merely saying I disagree with said defence.

As I've said, I'm not openly against it, I'm merely saying that there's a fundamental flaw in your logic due to the differences in maturity between 13 year olds and 18 year olds. That said, I don't advocate this sort of situation either... I have a 13 year old sister, and if she was involved with someone who was 16, even 15, I'd probably have something to say about the situation.

Then your rebuttal was reductio ad absurdum. You cannot discount that a huge amount of maturing occurs in the first couple of years. That is why it is acceptable for people to start "going out" during highschool; it's the accepted line from which people generally start.

Nonetheless I do see where you're coming from, but nonetheless the age difference here is unimportant. She shares morals which are akin to my own, and in terms of maturity I find we're much on the same level, at least for most things such as social interactions and intimacy. We know each other's limits and respect them, and for that reason I find the age difference to be ambiguous or arbitrary at best.

In Annabelle's case she's December of '96, meaning she's been thrown in to a group of Year 10s (Sophomores I think in American terms), most of which are a year older than her, and therefore her social maturity has been forced to conform to that anyway. In essence, two school years separate us, and that's acceptable by most standards.

 

[JstarD]

Too much effort, you can do everything outside a relationship

 

[Karl]

and she finally had her baby girl on saturday. it is the cutest thing ever, i havent cried in probably 8-9 years and when i got to hold her for the first time, tears were running down my face. I am the luckiest guy alive.

I now have alot of respect for you, will you be helping with the upbringing of this child despite it been 100% not yours biologically?

Goodluck to you man, you deserve it <3

 

[Kiros]

I've been with my fiance for the last 2 and a half years. =]

 

[Burnley]

yes when i joined sythe i was with someone and we split in june 09
then in october i met a new girl and on 3rd jan 2010 we became official
still with her now

 

[Airie]

I've been with my girl for around 2 years.

 

[CMotDibbler]

Then your rebuttal was reductio ad absurdum. You cannot discount that a huge amount of maturing occurs in the first couple of years. That is why it is acceptable for people to start "going out" during highschool; it's the accepted line from which people generally start.

Nonetheless I do see where you're coming from, but nonetheless the age difference here is unimportant. She shares morals which are akin to my own, and in terms of maturity I find we're much on the same level, at least for most things such as social interactions and intimacy. We know each other's limits and respect them, and for that reason I find the age difference to be ambiguous or arbitrary at best.

In Annabelle's case she's December of '96, meaning she's been thrown in to a group of Year 10s (Sophomores I think in American terms), most of which are a year older than her, and therefore her social maturity has been forced to conform to that anyway. In essence, two school years separate us, and that's acceptable by most standards.

Well I'm British - isn't December a third of the way into the academic year? December '96 would make her a Year 9 would it not? Sorry.. I'm a bit confused there, we may be talking about different education systems. Anyway, based on paragraph two of your quote I see little problem with your relationship; again it was only the argument presented that I questioned.

Social and physical majority vary greatly from person to person, I respect that... all the best

 

[SuF]

Not anymore and couldn't be happier. I don't think someone under 20 should be in a "serious" relationship.

Why? There is no age that can determine who can have a serious relationship and who can't.

 

[ShockWaveee]

Yep, her name is Amanda. We've been dating for four years now. We practically live together. We're both starting college in the fall, so that's gonna be tough but I have no doubts we'll make it through it. We're both 19 btw.

 

[l33tninja]

yes i am in a relation ship with the girl of my dreamz she is 16 and im 15 but we do argue alot and mostly its because i play video games but she always sai's she loves me and i love her to hope to make it to 10 in another 6 months

 

[bad_moose]

Given up on bloody women, they make no sense whatsoever and they are guaranteed to cost you a lot of money, confuse you and screw your emotions over.

 

No, but I really hope I can man up and ask this girl out.

 

[Sanctuary]

I was. Currently fed up with highschool relationship drama, so I'm waiting until college to start looking again.

 

[zafire]

i am to busy at the moment since school runs almost 18 hrs of my day

 

[New Defied]

I just recently got out of a relationship with a girl I had been dating for 8 months. It was great at first, but recently, we started to fight a lot and I realised it wasn't worth the time and stress. I miss her, but I'm having a lot of fun being single again.