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On Sunday I'm going to the movies with a girl that I'd originally met on facebook. It'll be the first time we meet up, but we talk for hours daily and have gone on cam a lot. She never hesitates to tell me how cool/hot etc I am, and took my advice for breaking up with her boyfriend.

I was wondering if I should go for it and hook-up with her at the cinema. She has pretended to kiss me etc on cam and has said if we hook-up we have to stay friends.

If I do decide to hookup, how the hell do I physically do it? I've never kissed at a cinema, only at parks and houses etc. Should I put my arm around her or something? In the actual kiss, should I try for open mouth or stick to lip locking etc?

Any replies are appreciated, I need to plan.
 
I'd try to hookup, she broke up with her boyfriend so she could get closer to you, also yeah I'd put my arm round her and a little bit of open mouth, just not too pornographic :P first time meeting up and all. Just make her feel comfortable with you and it'll all fall into place.
 
Didn't she say that if you hook up you have to stay friends? Maybe you should just be friends for awhile and then when you get closer and have gone on more dates with each-other then make a move. If she just broke up with her boyfriend maybe she doesn't want to be anything more that friends with people for a while.
 
First time at a cinema? Then I suggest you keep your lips closed. You don't want any accidents, I suppose?
 
Obviously hook up with her. You could wait until after the movie when your both standing up if it would be awkward while sitting lol
 
I hate hooking up at movies, your sitting there looking straight and blah. Maybe go on another date like to dinner or to movies at your place and you can try it then.
 
I don't suggest doing more than putting your arm around her. She may be hesitant to kiss you seeing how it's your first date. You attempting to kiss her + getting rejected in front of many people will embarrass you :p Just comfort her by putting your arm around her and letting her lean on you.. no need to rush things in public places.
 
About the boyfriend, we're both 14 so obviously any relationships are utterly meaningless. If we do kiss in the middle of the movie, what do I do for the rest of it? Stay with an arm around or what?
 
About the boyfriend, we're both 14 so obviously any relationships are utterly meaningless. If we do kiss in the middle of the movie, what do I do for the rest of it? Stay with an arm around or what?

I wouldn't recommend kissing during the movie unless there is a kissing scene and you both happen to look at each other. Otherwise brush your hand against her leg, sit shoulder to shoulder etc. Personally, I think an arm around a girl the entire movie gets uncomfortable.

If you're not sure if she wants to hold your hand, sit with your palm up, and fingers flat to see if she puts her hand on top of yours. This works when I'm driving in the car and she rides shotgun, maybe it will work at the movies!

P.S. Kiss after the movie. ;)
 
First time at a cinema? Then I suggest you keep your lips closed. You don't want any accidents, I suppose?

What? I don't think you've ever kissed a girl before.

Obviously hook up with her. You could wait until after the movie when your both standing up if it would be awkward while sitting lol

How exactly is it awkward? Maybe if you are stupid and try to kiss her in an awkward position that just won't work.

I hate hooking up at movies, your sitting there looking straight and blah. Maybe go on another date like to dinner or to movies at your place and you can try it then.

You only sit there perfectly straight not looking at the girl sitting next to you if you are a useless douchebag. Maybe it's only me but I don't stay focused on the movie when I'm watching it with a girl.

I don't suggest doing more than putting your arm around her. She may be hesitant to kiss you seeing how it's your first date. You attempting to kiss her + getting rejected in front of many people will embarrass you :p Just comfort her by putting your arm around her and letting her lean on you.. no need to rush things in public places.

He already established that she is relatively keen on kissing. Not sure what cinemas are like where you are but where I live, they are dark and when you go with a girl you don't sit around where people are. The only way he could get 'rejected in front of many people' and be embarrassed about it, is if he sits between a family of five and the girl screams when he tries to kiss her.

Usually if a girl 'rejects' you she just will move her face away when you try kiss her, not scream rape.

About the boyfriend, we're both 14 so obviously any relationships are utterly meaningless. If we do kiss in the middle of the movie, what do I do for the rest of it? Stay with an arm around or what?
Do whatever fits the situation. If you put your arm around her make sure she is comfy and you aren't hurting her neck like a douche bag. If you feel it, throw a few kisses on her cheek every now and then and hold/play with her hands. Then again you are both only 14 so I'm not sure how mature both of you are.

I wouldn't recommend kissing during the movie unless there is a kissing scene and you both happen to look at each other. Otherwise brush your hand against her leg, sit shoulder to shoulder etc. Personally, I think an arm around a girl the entire movie gets uncomfortable.

If you're not sure if she wants to hold your hand, sit with your palm up, and fingers flat to see if she puts her hand on top of yours. This works when I'm driving in the car and she rides shotgun, maybe it will work at the movies!

P.S. Kiss after the movie. ;)

You have both decent and terrible advice. I'm not sure how many romantic movies you have seen but in real life you don't need a kissing scene to initiate some intimacy with a female. Getting close to her is decent advice, make your next move a judgment of how she reacts to you throwing hints such as being close to her. Indeed, I have heard it from a few different girls that an arm around a girl does get uncomfortable after a while especially if you are doing it wrong.

The only real advice you need is to be confident. If you are sitting there like a nervous child then the entire movie, it will be awkward as fuck and at the end of the day she will leave thinking you are pathetic. However, if you play it cool and confident and don't give a fuck whether it goes bad or not, then the date will be awesome.
 
I would go for the hook up. My favorite past time? YES!

If shes the playful type, just tickle her sides alot, joke around, be funny. While you're tickling her, just slide your arm behind and around her. Tell her you're cold, and if she goes for it, tell her your lips are cold too. ;D

Fts.
 
I hate hooking up at movies, your sitting there looking straight and blah. Maybe go on another date like to dinner or to movies at your place and you can try it then.

God you fail. Have you ever actually went on a date? You don't stare straight ahead when your with a girl...jeeze. And you don't take a girl to your house on the second date, unless you're having a party, otherwise it's just weird dude, and how would a 14 year old have a good dinner date with a girl? Whos gonna take them? and pay for their meal? Their parents?

Think things through bud.
 
I'd hook up with her. You can just put your arm around her and lean over her, it's pretty natural. Just don't get too into it.

Also, try to sit at the back of the theater for more privacy. This will also hint to her that you want to hook up.
 
We have so many experts on Sythe.Org >_>

Just because someone says something you don't agree with doesn't mean they fail.
 
Just be funny, confident and your main aim really if it's the first date is just to get her to like you, think your kind and fun to be around. Also don't come across that you want her desperately, act as if you've known her for years. Don't do things that will make it awkward, like no conversation etc.. you'll know if she wants out if she starts getting her phone out during the movie..

I personally think the movies are the WORST first dates.. i've been to a few and if she's boring the shit out of me you can't do anything, you have to just sit and wait til it's over. i'd rather take her out for a meal.. if it's not going well or i'm doubting her i'll just say i've got other plans and offer to take her home after the meal.
 
tongue action is taking it too far if you're in cinema
just a small kiss is good enough
 
My first kiss was at the movies... I say you just lock lips and thats it... And idk it will come to you naturally on wat to do.
 
I would go for the hook up. My favorite past time? YES!

If shes the playful type, just tickle her sides alot, joke around, be funny. While you're tickling her, just slide your arm behind and around her. Tell her you're cold, and if she goes for it, tell her your lips are cold too. ;D

Fts.

God you fail. Have you ever actually went on a date? You don't stare straight ahead when your with a girl...jeeze. And you don't take a girl to your house on the second date, unless you're having a party, otherwise it's just weird dude, and how would a 14 year old have a good dinner date with a girl? Whos gonna take them? and pay for their meal? Their parents?

Think things through bud.



All of your posts are meaningless and it drives me crazy that you answer things that aren't related at all and aren't even derived from anybodies questions. It makes me cringe to think that you believe it's important enough to state

My favorite past time? YES!

Out of nowhere. Don't even get me started on how tool-bagish your signature is.



OT: Just go. You obviously don't have much experience going to movies with girls. Everything should come naturally unless you're weird about it.

Nobody can script out a date for you. Just stay calm, don't sweat like a pig, look and smell nice and the girl will lead you on for the rest. Try not to be a horny douche and try to open-mouth kiss her at every cute/romantic/kiss scene.
 
Parties + Dances > Movies.

I usually don't do this horribly cliched shit but this is the first time we've met and anything else would be inappropriate. Also, I'm going to a big 100 person house party and we're both invited. Maybe I should wait until then?
 
yeah just let her get used to you while ur alone and if u feel its right go for a kiss but nothing too much at the house party
 
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