Im completely lost

The People: A,H,N,M
H is my date, A is M's date, and N is invited to my house after prom.


So the other night was my senior prom, and I went with my friend (M) and these two girls (H, and A). We were going as a group, but realistically we were going to go to my house afterwards and hangout and most likely hook up later. So we eat dinner, go to prom, everything's fine and prom was great, until we were on our way home. I remember inviting my friend N over that was going to hangout with us because we were all going to drink. So the four of us get home and N comes over, and we start playing beer pong, having fun, etc. After hanging out for a little bit it's 4 AM and we start to get tired and were going to bed (where M and I were going to hook up with our dates while N was supposed to be on the couch). A was quite drunk at the time and was all over N, when she was the one that was supposed to hook up with M. Anyways, N hooks up with A, and H is in my bed, and M is in the guest room by himself.

Where it gets awkward: H is in the bed with me, and she's playing a game on her phone, so I decide to play Pandora to make it a little less awkward, and see if I can go ahead and make a move. I'm already really close to her, but she didn't contribute to anything so we pretty much sat there and played her dumb ass game on her phone. A few minutes later she gets up and goes to the guest room where M is (M knows i'm trying to get with H, and he was messaging her to help me out). I walk outside to get a glass of water and watch TV with N and A, but 30 minutes pass by and H still didn't walk out of the guest room where M was. I was very irritated by now because M is a good friend to me, and the thought of him hooking up with my "date" made me furious.

Finally M walks out of the room quite fast, and 5 minutes later H walks out as well. I assumed that M hooked up with H because he didn't get a chance with A because N was with her (which was completely my fault for inviting N over). A few hours later it's around 11:00 AM and we decide to go out for breakfast. M and I were walking faster than everyone else and he tells me that H was talking about how she didn't want to do anything with me because she didn't want me to get the wrong impression (that we would be dating). So then I ask what happened between the two and he said that H tried to make a move on M, and started kissing him and wanted to do more, but he doesn't like H in that way, plus he knew that I wanted to get with her.

I was beyond furious when I heard that and just wanted to drop everyone off and go home. After we finish breakfast I finally drop everyone off and I get to my house, and leave our group chat. H messages me and asks why I left, after small talk I tell her that I'm disappointed in her because she played this whole game with me and laid down in bed with me, and goes to my friends room instead and gets with him (they didn't hook up, they just kissed, but H tried to get with M, and that's why M got up and came outside to watch TV with me, N, and A.) H tells me that she didn't want me to get the wrong impression as if I would think that if we kissed, or did anything that we were immediately boyfriend and girlfriend. I tell her that I don't care about that, I was mostly upset because she would do something as to where she says that, but she goes into M's room and tries to hook up with him...

So now everyone's pissed at each other because H says that M is lying, but there's one thing I know about M, and I know that he wouldn't lie about such a thing like that to where it comes between our friendship. Now I'm just sitting in a little depression looking for an answer, or to just wait it out.

 

I would understand your frustation if H was your girlfriend but she's not so she can do what she wants. Even if she's lying, her trying to hook up with M isn't a big deal. I would suggest that if you're just looking for hook ups that you don't get emotionally attached.

 

If I had to bet then my bet would go on M story. Don't see a reason why he would backstab you like that and his story actualy makes sense. H went to M out of her free will and is clearly playing some sort of game here. I think in this situation the phrase "Bros before Hos" sums it up quite well.

 

I wouldn't worry about it plenty of girls out there even if h you thought was nice i dont think m would make stuff up girls love to start drama

 

The problem is you got too emotionally involved. You need to start distancing yourself or you will only get more hurt.

 

Update: H messaged me the day after and asked if I was mad at her because we didn't do anything, I told her that I didn't care that nothing happened, just upset that she would go into M's room and try to do that. To sum that part up, everything was fine with everyone, and we all talked it out. On Wednesday, and Thursday, H was texting me and asking what I was doing, just trying to make conversation, then she said that I left my jacket at her house and said that she'll bring it over when she gets off of school (assuming that more was going to happen rather than just dropping off my jacket). To sum that part up, she had to take one of her exams that fell into after school, so we all decided to go to the beach after she was done. Yesterday (Friday) me, A,N, and H went to the beach to hangout, just the four of us (M has been excluding himself because he was being depressed as I was, but was feeling better).

The day was good, and we just hungout until I dropped them off, and when H got out of the car she said "text me when you get home". So once I got home, I changed my clothes, and texted her "I'm home " and she just says "good". I think to myself, okay... maybe it was just a little sarcasm, so I ask her what her and A were doing, and she just goes "chillen". I think to myself as if why she wanted me to text her, but she only gives me these one word answers? I don't mind if you don't want to ask a question to keep the conversation going much longer, but keeping those one word answers makes it as if she never wanted to talk to me, but why did she say text me?

She throws these hints out as if she wants to do stuff, but as if it's only a tease to get me excited, and blows it off. I feel like she's waiting for something to happen, but throughout this time I've learned that I have quick emotions for people, and I could easily get jealous.

 

She is playing you. She knows that you want only 1 thing from her and she is playing you like a pianist plays a piano. You are fked either way. I would not suggest going after a girl like that but that might just be me.

 

ah maybe, she probably wasent in the mood to text, hence the one worded answers cause thats what i do sometimes, i just dont feel like texting, but people should want to talk to you, because theyre going to want to, but she could be playing you, just dont go for it man, she didnt go for you when she couldve

 

I just dont understand the issue? just do it

 

You better make the move and make her/him yours so you wont get jealous anymore!