My mom is pissing me off

I don't know what to do but she is pretty annoying, my mom is also a vain narcissist, she likes pointing out other people's flaws but she can't see her own flaws. I hated her since I was 13 and she's pissing the living balls out of me and every time she's with me, I never felt comfortable. Of course it doesn't mean I want my mom to be dead, I just really hated her, the last time we argued over something personal, she blamed the internet and video games for being the reason why I easily lose my temper to her.

Just a few hours ago I almost go wild in front of my mom like I want to punch the wall. She's also the problem why I got anger issues, I never get mad over little things easily before and now I easily lose my temper over little stuff, if I something annoying happens in front of me I want to punch someone in the face. I know this isn't normal and what should I do?

What should I do? I am pretty sure she already knows that I hate her but she keeps on doing the stuff that makes me hate her even more. Me and dad are cool, we had never argued before in my whole life.

 

Tried talking with your dad about it?

 

Try being nice to your mom, she isn't your enemy. and btw the internet does have a huge impact on people which cause the person to have a bad mood for whatever reason. This is from personal experience. just be nice with her for a day, go into a. Room with her and talk it out In respectful way and hopefully you leave an impact on her in a good way

 

Yeah he actually knows, he even told me to try to distance myself from my mom if that's possible.

I never intended to kill/hurt her, I just want to stay away from her.

 

Buy a bicycle, ride to your friends house or somethin' (hopefully you live nearby a friend).

EDIT: Please ride a bike safely.

 

trust you gut instinct. your sub conscious is trying to tell you something.

don't let anyone tell you you are wrong.

 

This is a srs thread not a roll bread

 

Honestly man, when I was much younger I had the same feelings. My mom and I went through a huge rough patch, but it's fully healed since then. I can tell you that the internet and computer games do indeed impact a person's mood. It's hard to notice when you're the person experiencing the mood changes, but it is indeed true. If you're mom is "acting out" "against" you, all she is wanting is some time with you. I know, its strange as all heck and doesn't make sense, but it's true. Spend a day with her doing something fun and just keep a calm but happy mood throughout the day. Relations WILL improve. You're her son/daughter, she really does care for you and wants to spend some time with you, but may feel as though you playing games and you doing your thing doesn't give her the chance to spend time with you. It may seem like a drag at first, but trust me, it's worth it. I'm off at college, and whenever my parents come up to visit or whenever I'm on break and can see my parents, I'm elated. You'll get some time away from them, but you also do need to dedicate a little bit of time to them too

 

My honest opinion is that you should give her a chance, you should try to talk with her a last time, tell her how you feel and how you both can make things change. If that doesn't work out just distance from her, and I don't understand how your dad told you that... Are they divorced?

 

Move out, Me and my mum use to argue 24/7. Moved out got a job and we get along like we did when I was younger.

 

You need to respect your mother. Swallow your trivial pride and ignore the remarks that make you mad. If you're having temper tantrums, that's on you. Be a man and have self control. You will thank me later.

 

Support. +1

 

sounds like my situation and i dont talk to her anymore!

 

You need to start by controlling and dealing with your anger issues. Once you have those sorted out then you can start by fixing the problem with your mom.

 

Seems like it. I think it has something to do with my anger issues since we weren't like this before I started losing my temper easily, will keep this in mind.

 

:nuts: you be nice now !

 

I just block it all out and go into my zone. When my mom goes on one of her sprees I just try to ignore it all even though it's hard. But you just gotta deal with it. Ride it out until you can move and you won't have to deal with it anymore.

 

Honestly don't lisen to these 2 advices. There is absolutely no need to respect your mother just because she is your mother. I honestly hope that in the future families will become more voluntary and that will force parents to actualy step up their game. If you were a shity parent then don't expect me to speak/visit you in the future, simple as that. And I don't need anyone telling me "Man but she is your mother/father you should visit him/her, everything he/she did was for your own sake". That's bull and we all know it.

Atm as you can read from above then a fair amount of people will give you the line "No matter how shit your parents were, and it doesn't matter that if random people did/said the stuff your parents do then you would never ever talk to/meet those people again, but if it's your parents then you should forgive all wrongdoings and BE A MAN AND TAKE THE ABUSE LIKE A MAN!". I hope that more people will become see the logical fallacy in this.

Basicly what aerios said that it's very hard to live with a phsycho bitch and when you put some distance between the two of you then it will be better and in time you might even start to miss the everyday abuse and nonsense.

What Ghast said is that you should not even give a chance to your parents to change and improve, you should just accept the shitty abusive parents as they are. Be sure to approve that logic in your future relationships aswell, have fun marrying a psycho bitch aswell, cause you know, you just have to accept people as they are.

You can replace the word "parents" with "mother" if indeed your dad is as cool as you say he is.

To me it more sounds like everything was okay before you started questioning what your mother said/did since it contradicted the stuff she herself does/says. Might be wrong here but that's the most common reason. It's like if your mother smokes and then punishes you for getting caught smoking. Same story with drinking. These sort of things seems to heat up pretty fast.

 

Karlrais, you shouldn't give advice. You're being impulsive with no sound reasoning to show for it. Not only did you fail to theorize my reply, you are also pushing for toxicity between parent and child. I'd explain why you're wrong in detail, but I'll leave this link here instead.

http://listdose.com/top-10-reasons-to-respect-your-parents/

 

LMFAO! Karlrais, either you're dumb, a troll, or a victim of abuse. Lol but either way, what you said is straight up shit tbh. Telling your child that them playing video games and being on the internet isn't abuse.

Look, if your mom is abusing you, get the away from her asap, report her to the cops, and etc. But her being annoying or narcissistic certainly abusive. convuLt, if she's being narcissitic, attempt to understand her side and try it out. Maybe she isn't wrong. But if you know that she is indeed wrong, just try to be nice and show her how the thing you mentioned is correct.

Imho, like GHAST said, you shouldn't give advice. If what convuLt's mom was doing was in fact abuse, then you'd be absolutely right. But at least right now, you're acting like terrible person since your advice would be convuLt's demise.

And in terms of parents being contradictory with things like that, it's because they don't want you to end up making the same shitty decisions as they did. For example, my dad didn't give two shits about school, and for 8 years of his life struggled to even put food on the table for himself. He struggled until he found a job he hated, and he absolutely hated the way his life was. He wasn't even able to do the things he loved. So, he forced me to try in school. Parents (unless they're f'd up and abusive) have unconditional love for their children. They're going to want the best for you, so they're going to try to make sure you don't have the same pitfalls as them.