Im a pretty bad texter with girls

The one thing I'm decent at is starting a conversation and talking for a while, but after 10-15 minutes I have no idea what to say and sometimes if they are taking a while to reply I think of something else and end up sending a text or two more for no reason. I overthink it or just start to ramble on and on about myself or something we were talking about earlier.

I'm not really looking for advice or help, though it'd be awesome. This was mostly just to get it off my chest that I'm not a very engaging texter when it comes to women.

 

i understand what you are talking about, i feel like i'm good at texting woman, however, there are those ones that don't talk! sometimes i feel like it's only me sparking conversations, many times sitting there not being able to think what to talk about! i think the problem is not you - but the woman.

 

Don't send multiple texts to a girl you don't have a relationship with. A girl may see that as something annoying or creepy. I know it may not be but that's kind of how it is. I have several friends that do that and it never fails for the girl to just brush them off and not reply.

Just ask how their day is going and then go from there. Base it off of what they did that day, etc.

 

I'm the same as you. Sometimes I don't have anything to say, so I just end up ignoring them. I realized that if they want to talk to you, they'll try to bring up another topic.

 

I stopped using texting for conversation awhile ago. Best decision ever. Instead, I just call and ask them to hang out over coffee if we're just getting to know each other. chicks dig it, and you become way more personal with each other...

 

well said. if they are interested in talking to you, they won't let that conversation slip away.

 

You shouldn't be texting a girl for more than 15 minutes at first. Just keep it light hearted and funny/flirty and then ask her if she wants to go somewhere/do something with you.

 

I know your'r not exactly looking for suggestions but this one will most defiantly help you! It might be hard to talk to girls because you probably do not know their interest. I would suggest asking her what her hobby is then this will leader to her future plans and just continue with this. It will lead to a huge talk, trust me!

 

You're thinking of girls as potential girlfriends instead of just people.

 

Well said, I was gonna say don't put the pussy on the petestol!

But anyway, just try being flirty, "Hey I like that jacket you wore in class today " see how they respond to that, no point beating around the bush for 8 weeks and then finding out your in the friend zone.

 

Well if you're decent at starting a conversation than start a new one with a question or something. You're not forced to constantly text the girl, unless you like her and she's texting you first for some reason. Also what bigkill9999 said, don't get in the friendzone. If you like this girl, flirt with her instead of talking about how cool it is on how you guys have so many things in common.

 

So basicly you are saying that you have trouble finding a subject to talk about with women and that seems odd to you? Maybe, just maybe the reason is that there aren't a whole lot of subjects that interest both men and women?

Don't bother trying to force a topic to talk about. If you have nothing to talk about or run out of things to say then it might just be sign that it's time to drop the conversation and move along.

Guys just stop trying to please women/girls every way possible. Let them show some effort also. That's my advice.

 

Wow thanks for all the replies guys! Didn't know this was such a common issue. Just to clarify, I'm not concerned about them not wanting to text me, I am usually already good friends with the girl and I'm not looking for a relationship, I'm just a boring texter.

 

It's really important that both sides have actual interest in having the conversation, it gets a lot easier after that. Sometimes it gets hard when she's not really sociable.

 

Just remember, people love talking about themselves.
With girls, you said your good at starting conversations. She must tell you things. Find things you relate in. Conversations are so much better when both people are actually interested in it.
If a girl stops responding, then don't bother trying force the conversation to continue by sending more and more. Let her do something or maybe she is just too busy to talk.

 

I'm with Loyal on this one, after many times of texting numerous girls - they always end up stale or I fail to get my point across. Just try to find a slick way to give her a call.

"You won't believe what just happened right now"
"You won't believe who I just saw at XYZ"

"What happened/Who?" *call*

That is, if the girl is actually not shy. Easier said than done, but...it can be done! Good luck

 

If he has trouble texting what makes you think he can keep a running call conversation that requires constant attention/thought going -.-...?

Im assuming the OP also has problems with calls or I sound like an ass(but if he has trouble texting logic says when he says he can start a 10-15 minute convo he's talking IRL not over the phone).

 

I think people had a large misunderstanding of the point of this thread. I'm really good at becoming good friends with girls or even talking to them (face to face mostly). I'm actually a rather good communicator. The issue is when I have to type what I want to say. Not even just texting females, I'm just a bad texter in general. When I say I'm bad at texting girls, it's not that they don't want to text me or they don't reply, it's that I always end up not knowing what to say.

 

Completely agree with him, Texting/calling got really lame to be honest,
I rather hang out with a girl in person then sit there all day text when the conversations going no where.

 

Never reply to girls saying ''lol nice'' ''haha okay'' and shit like that.

Never write emotional or funny story paragraphs to them either.

Always be yourself and talk about stuff you both are interested in try not to kill conversation in 5 minutes, talk about music food sports and stuff.