How do I know if I like a girl?

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I kind of know what you mean, but you just need confidence bro. You just gotta talk to her one day, and then be like "hey, I gotta run but can I get your number?" Then from there work some text game and try to plan a date. Maybe go get some drinks, if you're talking about high school and you're underage, maybe ask her out for coffee or if you have a dog maybe you guys can go to the park and walk your dog or some shit. So many options to choose from bud.

 

Confidence is key... mine is always getting destroyed as well, you just have to pick yourself back up again, that's what will make you strong. You don't need to hop quickly and ask her out. Once you get her number, text her for a few days before asking her to do something with you, but only if you see signs that she may be interested and shit like that. Remember, the worst she can do is say no. If she says no, just stop talking to her and find a new squeeze, simple as that. If she wouldn't really want to, she'll tell you no, doesn't matter how nice she is .

 

Well, you dont know her enough to make that decision. So you ask her out on some dates, get to know how her mind works, what her opinions are, her ambitions, her favourite things and you'll soon decide either yeah, we're pretty compatible or no, she's really not how I thought she was.

Usually when you start a relationship it feels amazing and you wonder "how could we ever argue, this is so perfect" and then a few months down the line you're at eachothers throats constantly - because as you get to know people, you and them change and sometimes you have to take the time to get to know someone properly before you can say for sure you want to make a serious relationship out of it. Yafeel?

Just go for it man, as long as she's an individual and doesn't consult her friends for every little thing then fuck em. She'll make her own mind up and that's all that matters. Either you're going to break up wih that person or you're going to marry that person - that risk is worth taking every time IMO.

 

Damn dude seriously that's a one hella good advice, is that why you had dated lots of girls (as it looks like cuz of your previous threads)?

I'll try to do that too

 

This girl though is out of my league, I know that for sure, but asking her on a date is difficult for me lol. Never been on a serious one either, always have been with a group so I don't really know what to do as an individual really when it comes to this stuff to be brutally honest to myself

 

You're still young. You'll practically "like" every girl you see. Love and a serious relationship won't be accomplished until after college. Right now since you're young just experiment with different girls and have fun. You've literally got nothing to lose.

 

Haha yeah man, I'm usually really good at giving advice, but kind of shitty at taking my own advice lol. The only issue I have is that when I get in a relationship, I get attached too easily, other than that I'm pretty good with them and pretty knowledgeable, if either of you ever need any advice feel free to message me.

@ Mandigo, when you guys talked on fb about hw you should have veered off the subject eventually and talked about something else, but that's in the past, there is always time to turn it around. If you guys aren't really good friends or anything like that, you have nothing to lose from her saying no, you just can't be scared and you gotta go for it.

You say she's out of your league, is that just because of looks? Not all women are that superficial, I mean yes, some are to an extent, but not all. My previous girlfriend was absolutely gorgeous and I always wondered why she was with me and I was so self conscious and me being that way, was always paranoid and jealous and I pushed her away, but now my confidence is better than ever and it should be nothing but smooth sailing.

 

Everyone thinks that. Just be yourself and go for it cause if she dpesnt like you for you theres no point. Just ask her to hang out or something - doesnt have to be anything fancy.

 

It's difficult as hell but I'll take your advice into consideration, thanks for the responses

 

I was in a situation very similar to yours during the summer of last year. I fancied a girl that I thought was completely out of my league, and I didn't know what to do about it.

After a while, I ended up showing her how much I really cared about her, and now I've been with her for almost a year.

Bottom line is, if you want to give it a shot, you should, because good things can come from it!

 

Try to get her number. If you do see her, just attack - don't think twice. Just act quickly before getting nervous, then while your in the conversation - tell her you haven't seen her in while, how you been, etc. - then say I gotta go but let me get your number real quick so I can hit you up. (of course this time you will be nervous but still gotta go for it.)

If you can't get it in person, then last resort facebook. But don't just dread on one girl, while your lining up this girl you could be scopin' out a few others. Let us know how it goes!

 

I don't know if I should even confront her, I'm afraid that even if I do begin to talk to her, she will talk to me back but she won't really want to, like if we text i'll always be the first one sending the texts (If it was me in her position I would be annoyed, like that one guy who keeps texting you but you don't want to text back), and i'll be even hurt more then than I am now

 

If they don't want to text back, they won't. A girl doesn't HAVE to text you back, if she thinks you're annoying, she'll ignore you, all there is to it. You're just overthinking things.

 

If the time is right and i'm lucky ill ask for her number and talk to her, like if shes walking to her car afterschool alone or walking to class alone or something. But its weird if shes walking with her friend and I just pop out of no where and say like whatsup? It feels awkward to me

 

Try to scope it out when she is by herself, if that doesn't seem to happen - then you might just have to go for it...

 

Be yourself and if you only think of her everytime and she wakes up some kind of strength in you. Then you will know it.

 

Life is about taking risks. You will never knew if she likes you or wants to go out on a date with you unless you make your move. So what, the worst thing that can happen is she'll say no. It may destroy your confidence for a little, but now you have a serious answer and it'll help you move on. The bright side is that she could feel the same way about you - too nervous to talk to you though.

Why not try messaging her on Facebook and talk to her, if you're too nervous to talk to her in person? My best advice for you is to just go for it. I understand where you're coming from - as one point I was in the same predicament, but after talking to lots of girls through Facebook, it raised my confidence and helped me able to talk to them in person and ideally be myself around them. If they like me, they like me, if not, oh well, I will find someone who is worth my time sooner or later.

I'll tell you this short story how I met my girlfriend. Last year, on a day called "Peace One Day", I was with a bunch of friends and it just so happens I was standing around the area where this beautiful girl was sitting with her friends. I recently was going through a break-up of a two and a half year relationship. You know, I was trying to keep my cool around her and my friends knew her friends and her more than me, so I just played along with it. Jokingly, she said I should get her a pinwheel and a pin, and so I did. Weirdly enough, after I got it for her we started walking down the hallway and seems if we were both going to the same place, so I tried to stay closer next to her, so I could say bye to her when she left. About a week later, it was homecoming and I was leaving my ex-girlfriends house for the last time ever, as we were officially broken up. I was upset but decided to say fuck it and go do what is best for me (considering my friend said I should just come to the dance). So I came, and it just so happens the same beautiful girl was there. About a half hour to 45 minutes in we started dancing and I found that her presence made me happy, so I decided it was best for me to keep those "good vibes" around. Next morning I messaged her on Facebook saying: "Text me sometime?" and gave her my number. She texted me and me just connected. It's been good times ever since then.

What I am trying to say is - no matter what happens, through the ups and downs, the acceptances and rejections, you'll find the confidence in your life at some point. Just never give up hope, and the only way to find something out is if you try it. Go for it, have no regrets man. You're still young.

Best of luck to you man, I hope everything works out. If you need anymore help, feel free to ask.

 

Be confident. It isn't the end of the world if you get rejected.

Besides, it sounds like you're over thinking. Through experience you'll find out the answer to your questions in this thread. You will never get to know her fully if you don't do anything.

 

I don't know, I've been trying to scope it out but she has none of my classes basically, I see her as I walk to one of my classes, but shes usually with like one of her friends. Even if she's alone and we talk, it would only be for like 1-2 minutes (since we both have to get to class), would that be enough time to have a conversation and ask for her number?