Girlfriend help.

I've had my first girlfriend at 16 (Not ugly or anything just shy with girls), 17 soon to be. At first she really liked me and always wanted to Kiss, hug, cuddle, hold hands, etc, but now she spends around 60-80% of the time when I'm with her (at her house, at mine, etc) on her fucking phone. I don't know what to tell her. She's become pretty narcasistic too saying she's better than me at everything and literally meaning it, almost to the point where it's like "bullying". I mean I don't really give a fuck it's just very annoying and a major major turn off probably for anyone. Dances and stuff are coming up and part of me doesn't want to be with her anymore as it seems she gives more fucks about her phone, shitty snapchat, and instagram than me. I'm in a hard place. I'm not sure to break up with her and tell her to become less of a narcasist and get the fuck off her phone, tell her nicely (and maybe break up later), or just let it go. I honestly don't know really if I like her anymore because she fucking is always on her god damn phone. Also, idc if it's ethical or not, but I've "gotten access" to her snapchat and I see she snaps tons of dude and like 3 regularly. I even read one of the snaps she got and it was a dude that said "babe you there" or something like that. I have no fucking clue at all what to do. Please someone help with some advice.

 

Be straight with her. If your relationship isn't strong enough to discuss things like her being on phone to much, and talking about what she's doing with the other guys, then might as well end it. You're still in your prime, so don't look for someone to spend the rest of your life with just yet.

 

Agreed. She gives me the the manipulative emotion response. I'm a really sensitive guy emotion wise (yes idgaf) so I would literally die on the inside if I see her cry or something. I would discuss it but I can't because she's fucking snapchatting all the time. yh I agree. She asked if I would try to go to the same college as her. In my head I'm like, "fuck no wth. First girlfriend 5 months or so wtf is this". I just muttered, "maybe".

 

Damn I would be salty too if she was on the phone all the time. That joint urks the hell outta me. I would tell her straight up she has to chill out on the phone, and question about what boys she is talking to on that snapchat crap. If she takes you serious, and really likes you - she would stop or limit herself when she is around you. Best of luck.

 

She claims the guys are her "friends" even though I notice she talks to like 3 fucking new ones a week. Also yh. I was just at her house tonight and we went in the Jacuzzi and literally all she did was make snapchat shit. She won't even watch movies or tv with me anymore. Just phone, phone, phone. But yh back to the point, I never asked her about it. She just tells me they are her friends and not to worry but I'm like 80% sure it's more than that.

 

"Babe, you there"

Fuck that, I'd say take a hike bitch.

 

Thing is she doesn't know about it and who knows maybe it could be a creeper or a joke. ^ I'm not sure if I should be like this (what I said) or you. she's been pissing me off recently a lot

 

Bro girls crave attention, treat her like shit for a week and ull be back together, if doesn't work break up she aint ur gal.

 

Been somewhat being "quieter" towards her. She noticed and asked if I was ok bored etc. I said yep I'm fine. (did for like a few days) still same shit.

 

Dude, take a hint. She's being cold to you and snapchatting guys a lot. She spends more time on instagram than on you. She's probably already cheating.

I'd honestly put that bitch right on the street where she belongs.

 

Part of me wants to yes... but when I was acting "cold" to her by not really talking etc, she asked "do you not like me anymore?" Then almost like started crying. I have no idea wtf is going on. I can't tell if she's being a manipulative little bitch who's controlling me for giggles or actually sincere and just addicted to her phone. She claims she has a lot of guy friends.

 

id personally ditch her, dont look at that shit plent of fish left in the sea.

 

Its clear that she doesn't want u, so yeh id say dump the slut L

 

U guys have to have a good talk and settle the problems. Tell her that you are not comfortable with her doing all this and that u want to spend more time together. Tell her what u feel and honesty is the key in a relationship. If the problem persist, I guess its time to let go

 

Thanks for the help everyone. Still not really sure. Stuck in the middle now between talking to her about it or just dumping her and telling her then.

 

If some dude is calling her babe and she continues to talk to him then it's not a joke or some random dude. She's constantly snap chatting with other guys and as you said she seems to have new ones every week. To me it seems like she is leaving her options open and looking for attention from other dudes by sending them pics and talking to them all the time. If they were just friends they wouldn't be snap chatting all day long and calling each other babe (assuming she has conversations with dudes that you haven't heard about or witnessed first hand). She is seeking attention like a lot of girls your age do.

 

How do you have access to her snapchat without her knowing? You can only open a snap once so that means you're opening the snaps and she isn't so idk... Anyways I'm a really straight up person so I'd personally just tell her to put her fucking phone down and be a normal human to her boyfriend. If she doesn't like it then fuck her (not literally that might be rape). Also idk what to think about the "babe" thing because I call a lot of girls babe even when they have boyfriends and they're fine with it so yeah there's that...

 

agreed

 

Sit down and talk to her about how you feel. If she acts iffy, then tell her to get the fuck out.

 

Tell her straight up to get off the phone and give you some attention or you're outta here. Just be honest. Then if she stays the same and you still feel the same way, get outta there.

Can't hurt to bring it up to her. Who knows, maybe she'll go back to her old ways!