I Really need help

So basically I meet this girl and we've been dating for about month and today things turned a little bit sour and she wont even respond to me and she always wanted to hang out and with in the last week my mom came downstairs and we where about to get it on, and now she feels uncomfortable at my house, and she never wants to do anything anymore. And today she was like pushing me away when I asked her to do something.

I've been in and out of the hospital for the past year and a half now and I'm finally done with all that and I've been depressed for the longest time I use to have to do drugs to just act normal. It got to a point where I spent upwards of $500 a week on it. Then I started stealing my sisters ritalin and my mom's xanax for her anxiety and her depression pills. But for the last two weeks I've actually been happy and haven't done any drugs or felt the need to for that matter.

Now it sounds stupid that this girl I've been only dating for 1 month has my all wound up like this but it is what it is. I really don't want to lose her and am almost willing to do anything to keep her. I've had a horrible life for a while and literally haven't felt genuinely happy for over a year. And I find myself happy and smiling when ever I'm around her and I need to know if anyone has ever been though this and what happened. Please don't post if it's going to be a 5 word sentence for your post count. This is very serious, I've talked to a few friends and they really don't help. I can go into more detail if I have too, but please help me.

 

Put the ball in her park. Apologise (even if you're not sure what's turned her sour) just say "sorry if I've upset you, let me know when you wanna hang out" or something. Go enjoy your good vibes while you have 'em man, that's great that you've been clean for 2 weeks! Go enjoy the freedom dude, don't bog yourself down with lurve.

 

Short answer, but I feel like its valid nonetheless.

Learn to love yourself before you try love someone else. Otherwise youll end up using them as a crutch.


Try building your confidence. Get more exercise, eating healthy and learning about things you find interesting- if possible. Do your best to stay sober, but recognize that theres a time and a place for fun. If you can get your kicks from something other than drugs itd do wonders.


Dont put it on a pedestal.

 

Hey mate the advice I can give is really ask her what's wrong and if there's anything u can do about it. Sometimes they might need some time. Also it's great that you've been happy after a long time and clean at the same time that's awesome I hope that u persevere and that your problems will be solved. Gl mate

 

She will push you away if you just ask for it...

Seriously..?


To get her to "do stuff" you need to do stuff for her..

- Take her out someplace nice
- Romantic night in a hotel
- Picnic
Anything dude... Don't meet her and say "wanna do stuff" it doesn't work like that lol.

 

well i agree with J E Parts

And seriously i laughed when u said '"wanne do stuff" lol

 

If you are dependent on her for happiness, you need to sort that out.

Having someone in your life that makes you feel like that is great, but it's effectively eliminating the symptoms, and not the problem..

What you should be focusing on is YOURSELF. Start exercising, get out more often, start to grow your own food, educate yourself on various topics - be better in general, and lead by example, helping out others, and get off of the drugs, because it skews your perception.

Fair enough everyone is trying to give you advice on this girl, but what happens if that all goes sour? Will you go back to how you used to be? YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. Focus on you dude, and all the good things will flow in time.

"In life's situations, you always have three options, to accept it, change it, or leave."

I wish you well in your journey brother.

 

just be more secure. First of all and this is most important to me, don't lose hope. If you lose hope then basically you have no goal/future. listen to what everyone else is saying as well mate.

 

Self confidence. You need to become more self confident in yourself and confident in your relationship. Yes she may make you happy but if it wasn't meant to be then there is always someone else out there for you. If you notice no matter where someone lives or they go they're able to find someone that they're compatible with.