Online (Apps) Vs. In person?

So the past 3-4 months my life's kinda flip flopped. I went on medication that's helping my social anxiety, and instead of staying in my dorm room playing League all day, i'm out socializing, partying, and making friends. I've been loving it.

Not only that, up until this point I didn't really any confidence at all when it came to girls but over the past 2 months or so i've been getting better at it

1 girl I hooked up with drunk then we had like a 1 week fling but now she hates me or something lol, idk.

Then 2 other girls I met on apps on my phone and we've talked a lot. I've gone to the movies with one a couple times but it's hard since she lives like an hour away and my cars at home. The other one we've just talked and facetimed but never met (These were all at different times)


So anyways, my question is how do I really make that connection with girls in person? My schools small, 3000-4000 undergrads and most of the parties I go to are with like Juniors / sophomores and I don't really know any of them.

How would I go about talking to some girl I don't even know and trying to establish some sort of connection?

 

well talking to some random people you just met is usually going to be somewhat awkward, but i like talking about music. it's something that 99.999999% of people are willing to talk about, because everyone has a fav artist/song/album/genre that they're willing to tell you about. chicks usually love talking about how they love whack ass alternative artists like 'feist' or some shit, and then you can just talk about your fav artists, then the conversation should flow naturally from there... i hope this kind of helps you, because tbh i dont even really know what you mean by make a connection (lol) with them, so my advice might be all bullshit

 

Both friendly and then like in a more romantic type way. How to make a friendly connection in person which might escalate to something else later, then something at like a party to find a hookup or something.

 

you can't really force a connection dude, this shit just happens naturally. just meet with them, talk, and if you get along with them, hang out and talk to them more and more. things just naturally start to happen.

no need to stress about it dude, i know you said your coping with anxiety issues and shit but just trust me, that's how it happens.

 

If you are going to the movies with girls you are already connecting with them in person?

Keep at it friend, anxiety is a killer

 

Don't hook up with them is my first piece of advice. If you want a serious, committed relationship then you've got to start as friends. Get to know her, get to know things about her, what she likes and what she doesn't like.. if it fits and you get on well then ask her out, start as you were with things like cinema and then start more romantic things like meals (a lot of people dont actually like dinner dates so make sure before you go), buy her presents etc etc.

There is no one way to go about it, but for me that's how I do it - so I don't start dating some psycho right away - get to know 'em.

 

A relationship started being based on sex, is never a good one buddy. You have great sex, because it's mysterious and whatnot. But, imagine how you would feel if you got to know her for a few months or like a year, and then finally hit it? Or hit it once within a few months, it was awesome, and then you'd have something to look forward to in a year. A relationship based off sex, is most likely always going to be sex, constant sex because you know you can get it.

Personally, I wouldn't use online to EVER connect with a girl on a "interested in dating level" because you can talk to them for a few months, finally decide to meet, and then it's just awkward. Or you realize you have no spark...I just prefer old fashion in person. Lol

EDIT: Also, they could turn out to be one of those beasts that plow on a gallon of Nutella spread for the base makeup, and edit the shit out of there photos.

 

Just be you. Also any girl that kisses/goes down/fucks you on the first night you've met her most likely isn't relationship material. Trust me, i've learned the hard way.

 

Online is wayyy better

 

Just keep doing what you think is right. Do the movies and everything and dont let anciety get ya