Getting over a girl?

Apparently, I've got to know this girl and she is interesting though. Really open-minded etc. I've gone out with her about 3 times already, 2 of them were movies. We got crazy though, kinky times and what not.

After 1 of the movie day out, I asked her straight, what her intentions are and her feelings towards me are. I'm pretty surprised though. She said, she likes me as a best friend and she has no feelings for me, and if there are feelings involved, it is due to us making out with each other which is apparently infatuation.

I'm trying to get over her though. She treats me as a best friend, I would want to treat her the same and not leave her when she has problems and stuffs. Try to be there for here etc but I can't force myself to somehow throw those love/lust feelings and instead have a mutual feeling for her. 1 reason that I know why I can't leave/get over her is definitely because she allows me to get into a physical "relationship" with her. When we are out, we will definitely be like couples, hugging/kissing and what not in public etc. Probably because I yearn to have that kind of thing.

Need some serious help on this. The things that I like to do and stuffs which is suppose to make me happy isn't helping me either to get over this. I feel that these feelings are eating me up slowly. Whenever I see her with another guy, which happened yesterday, she went out with her third ex and told me, I get moody and I feel sad.

Any advices? Cheers man.

 

I think based on what you said you obviously have feelings for her. Problem is you cant keep doing the stuff you're because it will make the feelings you have for her stronger hence harder getting over her.

I rarely hear that a girl who doesn't have feelings for a guy would be willing to kiss and touch like that. Girls are like a maze sometimes the things they do could mean 1000 things... emotions can play a lot of mind games so you shouldn't rush into doing anything either.

It's normal for you to feel a bit moody and sad over it because you obviously have feelings. If you carry on the physical aspect of your relationship then it will become very difficult for you to get over her. I don't want to judge or assume anything but if she is physically playing with you and has no feelings for you then she could be doing the same with other guys or her ex's?

If you want to get over her, I'd advise you gradually decrease the amount of GF-BF type things you do with her and possibly look for another girl?

Let me know how things work out I can help you more.

 

Had this happen to me before, almost in the same way. Went out with a girl, she was really similar and amazing for me and we had kissed a few times, after about the 4-5 date to my suprise she said she didn't want anything further, but we could be friends. I was really hurt at the time, but now i'm in a 10 month relationship with an even better girl and don't even think about it.

You'll just need to take the hurt but know there is much better out-there in the not so distant future for you.

 

so let me get this straight:

you've gone out with her three times, did some kinky shit
she then said she considers you as a best friend and not boyfriend type (essentially)
you then saw her out with another guy?

i dont know if im missing something, but nigga she sounds like she's just taking test drives with no real idea of making a commitment to a relationship.

so i'll answer the question in ya thread title. really the best way to get over a chick is to get interested in a whole other girl (ideally not a hoe this time). especially if you can find some smokeshow who doesn't even kiss until the third date (sex on the first two dates might be kinda impersonal, this is normal). really, other than that you can just try to forget and move on. however this option takes far too much time tho and nigga time is money so go find the girl of your dreams b! :love: :love: :love: :love:

 

It was literally our first meet up and things like that happen lol. Trying my best to reduce any sort of contact with her. But at the same time, I don't want to make it look like just because she rejected me, I'm gonna leave her just like that. To be honest, I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend. Apparently yeah, if anyone initiates the kinky actions to her, she'll be more than happy to return it. I myself couldn't guess what she's thinking. I asked her straight out about her intentions and stuffs. But yeah, the replies doesn't really tele with what her actions.

She really doesn't mind though. As long as she is single and these kinky stuffs were to happen, she said, it won't hurt anyone. So I'm more than welcomed to do it with her. I mean lets be honest, which guy doesn't like this kind of girl am I right? But everything has a limit to it, as much as I like to do it, if she isn't sincere about the love, then why should I bother? But it is a bit difficult for me to get over since we have pretty much do everything except sex.

I did not really saw her with another guy. But I saw it via her Instagram and I asked her who was he and apparently it was her third ex. Which then she said, she can't deny that they might go back together. Really confused about her feelings but I wouldn't want to ask her further which might annoy her out and eventually totally lose her out as friend.

 

well girls are so damn complex dude. I was kinda in the same situation, I started talking to this girl and we got really close till the point I asked her out and we went out to the movies. Well at the movies I hugged her and she got really close to me, but I didnt make the move. After that one day when were chilling with some friends, she asked them if they could leave. I thought "damn what's wrong" and then she said "I like you" the moment she told me this, it was so good that I almost kissed her at the time (couldn't kiss her because it is not allowed at my school) Making the story short, I had a relationship with her that lasted 4 months, but in those 4 months I felt nothing. She is just a mess, but to help you. Do this, talk to her but little by little, stop talking to her invent excuses that you're sick if she invites you somewhere and try to see if you can meet new people.

Anything else just ask mate.
Hate to see you in that position.

 

Cheers man. I'm currently trying my best to reduce any kind of contact with her. Probably just texting her here and there if its needed. Asking hows her day and what not. Usually I'm the one who will ask her out though and she'll agree with it if she is free. Haven't seen her asked me out yet. But her replies are confusing me, past 2 weeks, she said she is always looking forward to meeting me and she always love to watch movies with me. So I'm really kinda confuse what her "real" intentions are even after she said that she only want to be with me as a best friend.

 

Not being funny mate, sounds to me like she's a bit of a slut, she doesn't wanna settle down she just wants to mess around and stuff, I don't mean a slut, just slutty intentions lol.

My suggestions would be to just ignore her, delete her from social networking sites and stuff, don't talk about her and try and find someone else to spend time with, have something to look forward to all the time instead of not having anything to do and just dwelling on the past, just stop things that refresh your memory of her

Gl bro, it's only a girl, there are another 3 billion out there my boy!

 

Cheers mate. I've somehow gotten over her already since she started ignoring me when I talked to her about her definition of dating lol.

Thanks once again.

 

We'll, you could start going out more and meeting other women... And don't just stick to one. Have variety, have confidence, and just be a boss when it comes to meeting girls. Have you ever tried walking up to random girls and just sparking a conversation.

 

I think that you should move on bro. Situations like that are definitely difficult especially when you have feelings for the person. However eventually you would find your match. You might think for now that she might be the perfect girl for you but im sure you will be able to move on and find someone who u can spend your life with as there is a plan for everyone

 

I think you should probably try to distance yourself from her but at the same time it seems like she wants what you want.

 

Move on from her man, to me it seems like she lead you on. I was in the same situation as you. Theres loads of fish in the sea bruva

 

You are not the only guy this happens to (Dont mean to be insensitive). Girls always make the best guy they know there best friend as they dont want to loose them (They do this unintentionally), they dont share the same feeling that they feel for the jerks that she will one day complain to you about.. Best thing to do is find another girl..

 

Don't get mad, but think of her as a slut. Think she doesn't want to be with you cause of some other dude. Also attempt to find a new girl that's into you or just help you forget her. Seems hard at first but trust me, I hope you'll get over it

 

Getting over a girl like this is the only option. But I think you understand this also hence the title "getting over a girl". Not really looking to give advice but more of an understanding.
This girl surely isn't a keeper. Even if you 2 make it as a couple ask yourself this. How long will it take untill you're the ex nr 4 or 5? Just not worth investing your feelings in a messed up girl that has no idea what or who she is after. From my personal experience girls like that havn't had a strong fatherly figure in their lives and in some fucked up way are searching/in need for it. I once landed on a girl like that and my advice is to run and never look back!

//She isn't a slut like people are trying to point out, but she clearly has issues, issues you don't need right now.

 

Thanks guys! I finally got over her and things is going it should be now

 

Thats good ^ , keep moving on in life. you'll meet people liek these everyday

 

I'm guessing she's about 17 YO? This is common as fuck for around this age. Girls don't really have feelings at this age and as OP said she's test driving. The best way to get over a girl tho is to look for another, Although this is very hard I know trust me. It will be almost impossible to move on from her if you guys stay in regular contact, It's just going to kill you inside. You need to make a choice whether to delete her out of your life or keep her in. She doesn't sound like a keeper tho and I suggest the delete everything you have with her then in a few months you can be friends again when feelings wont be the same.

 

when she is with another guy and she gets involved heavily, she will lean away from you. bad situation if you have feelings for her, hard one.