How to stop liking someone?

I've crushed on my best friend for the better part of a year now. I told her shortly after this started, and we've become a lot closer. We've hooked up a few times, but most of the time we were drunk. We've had a few hearts to heart on it, and she says it's because she doesn't want to lose me as a friend (and btw, when I say we're best friends, we are. Like, im spending thanksgiving with her at her aunt's house)

I feel like in so many ways we're in a relationship. The way we interact, how comfortable we are around each other.. etc. Multiple people have asked me if we're dating because from an outside POV it seems like we are.

Anyways, I want to stop feeling like this for her. I thought once I went to college it would go away on its own, but it hasn't at all. I've done everything I can to try to start something between us besides flat out asking her to be my girlfriend, so I don't know what else to do.

It's not like this girls even out of my league. It's a dick thing to say, but she's not like a 10/10 gorgeous or anything. She's a bit overweight, and some of my friends wonder why I like her so much because they say I can do much better. Which, I don't care, because I honestly love her and love being around her.

She's always with someone though, and always talks to me about them. I don't say that it annoys me, because I want her to be able to talk to me about anything, but it gets too much sometimes.

So. My options are
Keep going on like I am, and have feelings for her but have no way to express them
Lose those feelings and simply be her friend (which I've tried, but I can't feel the same way about any other girl)

So. I don't really know what to do. She's sort of with a guy right now. A 21 year old straight outta prison as a sex offender who's apparently a blood. Nice choice, right?

 

The best way to get over some one is to start hanging out with some one else, you'll get over her once you find another girl that you like to spend time with.

 

Nothing but time can change it, you can force yourself to like someone else but that'll just make your problem worse. You can't help who you love, corny but true.

 

"Time heals all wounds"


All you can do is wait.


Or you can just blatantly tell her how you feel one more time. The situation you're in isn't good. Telling her how you feel again and being shut down thats still a better situation then you're in now. If she keeps strining you along there is no point in having.a.relationship with her. Especially if she is seeing someone. Its going to cause unneeded emotions to strir up.

Tell her you how you REALLY feel. Pour your heart out to her.
If she still wants to be freinds then tell her straight up you can't and there is no otherway and you're going to have to cut things off.

 

Don't forcefully do anything. Let things happen naturally as in time you will have a better idea of what to do. Maybe she is the right person for you? maybe not. But I would avoid doing anything forcefully. Just let things happen naturally and see where you end up. Her talking about other people might be because maybe she wants you to take the next step?

 

As others have stated, you need to give it time.

If you're wanting a relationship with her, I would personally say go for it and ask her.

If you're scared of facing the fact that she may say no, then I'd say you have to do it. This will give you closure (if she says no), and will allow you to move on in succession. It may not be a instantaneous process, but if she herself advocates that she is definitely not interested in anything other than being your friend, it will help you move forward.

 

Let things happen naturally? Its been a year. I think hes passed that phase.

 

Tell her and mean it. You're never going to get over this girl, it could be 40 years down the line and you wont. Not to mention this is going to become an issue for any future girlfriend or boyfriend you two end up seeing.

You'll never stop wondering what if, life is honestly too short to stop and wonder what if.
There is no destiny or fate, you make your own path and you stick to it. If you love this girl, you tell her and you show your admiration and you don't stop until you've won. Because you can sit around and say "Oh, Ill just wait it out and get over her" You wont. Take life by the reins and fucking charge.

 

you gotta fall in love with someone else.

 

Start hanging out with other friends and get your mind off of her. She's not worth it. If she wants to be with somebody else don't torture yourself.

 

To Above ^^^

Yes, it's been a year, so as Lame said, I think the time to just wait it out has passed.

If I go in and just say like "Look, I can't keep doing this. I need to know what we are, and if we're gonna ever be something." Or something along those lines, pretty much telling her how I feel, I feel like it'll ruin us.

I DONT want to lose her as a friend. She's my best friend, regardless of my other feelings for her. That's not an option. Would I risk that to be in a relationship with her though? Yes.

I don't know, I might wait until the summer when i'm home and see what happens.

 

Being harsh but you gotta be realistic to yourself:

(From your story)

- You will either be in pain (mentally) forever or you will need to asked her out straight up risking your friendship and recover or being with her and seeing what the future holds.

- You will ALWAYS have feeling for her unless she seriously broke you apart. Best way is to lose contact with her to drain those feelings away

- You need to get away from her if you want to forget your emotion for her. You've tried going to college BUT your mistake is staying in contact with her.

- Love hurts man, everyone deals with it and you just gotta deal with yours.

These are simple advice that WORKS. You know it does but you have to pick what you want. That's life for you. :S GL on your situation.

 

There's really no way to stop liking someone in a second. Especially if it's your best friend, you probably see him/her every day. Distance yourself and start doing your own thing. Get your mind off him/her and focus on something else, like smoking weed. That always works

 

Honestly, I use to struggle with this like crazy. I was basically obsessed with this girl. My philosophy is never give up. I finally got with the girl of my dreams a few times now and the wait is worth it! Unfortunately, my friendships with them were cut short after some rough breakups so be careful with that.

 

There is always another girl somewhere that you can spend time with, share the same interests with etc. As previously stated, once you begin a new friendship with another girl you may get feelings for them, and they may in turn have the same for you.

If you feel like you truly want to pursue the relationship with the girl you are mentioning, the best way in my opinion is to flat out tell her. Tell her how you feel. Assure her that if you two don't work out, it won't ruin the friendship. If you choose this path, just remember to be CONFIDENT in yourself. Confidence is attractive to females. However, do not mix up confidence and cockiness.

Best of luck to you, just remember there will always be someone, sometime

 

Been in a similar situation myself, infact identical. Its a struggle but just focus on yourself. Her decisions will either reap the rewards or face the consequences. Fate happens. Focus on yourself and bettering yourself. Immerse yourself in more social activities.

 

Spend time with another girl simply like much of the above said
or focus on other things,never cling on to someone for too long.
Besides if she chose a gang member over you,I doubt she is worth your time.

 

Try hanging with your boys any time you start feeling lonely, otherwise just try to distance yourself as much as you possibly can (block her on all social sites) and slowly but surely you'll start to just stop thinking about her as a part of your life. Usually they say it takes twice as long as the relationship lasted to get over the person, so sometime you can't really help it but try your best. GL man.