Confused about a friend

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so i've been talking to this girl online. just general chit-chat. she talked to me about previous boyfriends and such. she works in a tattoo parlour and recently got a black ace (cards) on her arm, just the symbol. she said she got it for "national coming out day" which is celebrated by LGBT communities. (i know the black ace has a meaning about white girls liking black guys but it's not that - she made it clear she didn't know about that meaning). so..

I wondered, why would she be celebrating LGBT? she's obviously straight. Sure, she may have LGBT friends and such, but she mentioned that a previous boyfriend had turned violent toward her when she told him she "wasn't technically straight".

she then said, does it not bother you that i'm technically not straight? and of course I said no i don't care what you are bla bla. so then she says she really doesn't want to tell her family about whatever she is. SHES EXTREMELY TOUCHY ABOUT THE SITUATION so I don't wanna say "well what are you then", get me?

she is definitely biologically female. she definitely has had and continues to talk about having, a boyfriend. i don't see how being bisexual doesn't make you straight either - and why would your family mind.

i looked up black ace symbol meanings and came across "asexuals" - Asexuality (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone or low or absent interest in sexual activity. but surely this isn't a huge ass deal to tell your family/boyfriend and doesn't mean you're not straight.

she then said, she doesn't want to tell anyone about "T". Does this mean she's a female who wants to transition to being a male but to be gay perhaps? i just don't know what assumption to make.

DONT POST SAYING ASK HER - I WOULDNT POST IF I FELT THAT WAS AN OPTION. Please let me know anything you can dig up that might help or post your opinion.

 

listen dawg, bein' bisexual has implications that she been doin' stuff with girls, n maybe her parents dont approve of that, ya feel? it's possible she was mistold about what the ace of spades meant, confused asexual with bisexual or some shit like that. yall be saying that asking her isn't an option but nigga if you wanna know so bad that's the best way to find out the truth, cuz otherwise we just gunna be sittin here spitballin all day.

and is there any real reason that you're going on csi miami on this random ass chick you been chattin' up online or is there more ta this we aint bein' told?

 

i'm not gonna ask her, not an option, dont want to upset her she gets all depressive when she talks about it

cause i would just like to know no other reasons

 

Being bisexual is practically the same as being gay. It's still hard to let people know, and people will look at you differently. My best friend's bi, and she went to prom with her girlfriend. She had another friend (who wasn't going to prom) come over to her house and get all dressed up so she could say she was just going with friends, JUST so her family wouldn't find out about her and her GF.

To the person, it's practically the same thing as being gay or lesbian.

 

Before we go on with this, Mr. anon -wink-, have you ever even received pics from this chick or anything? I feel like this girl is lying for some reason... no such thing as a female transvestite >.>.

As in, it is super-rare from what I understand.

 

This, from what you've said its pretty obvious shes worried of what others think of her choices.

 

Being bi can still be a big deal to come out about, her family might not approve of gays/lesbians so although you don't think it's a big deal it may well be for her

 

Bi = Gay/Lesbian. It might be a big deal to her parents to tell it, or to the people around them. She could also be a-sexual.