Girl I Really Like

I just fell for the first girl after having been so hurt from the my past girlfriend of 3.5 years. I had a lot of emotional abuse from her.

I'm now a freshman in college. I have only known her for about 10 days but it feels so right.
She does have a boyfriend. But she is always flirty with me.... At least I think...

It's killing me knowing next weekend he will be here, all weekend, with her in her room, no roommate....

I think I love her... I wrote her a letter to stick under her door... Like on Monday/Tuesday. But I can't know for sure if it's creepy or no slim hoping someone can read it....

There's also a lot more to the story. Like how I stay up from 1-4am on a class night comforting her when her boyfriend and her had a fight.,..

It just feels so right...

Yeah. People should message me...

 

When exactly did you break up with your girlfriend?

 

That's a tough one, are you sure it's love? Not just lust.
I wouldn't of gone with the letter.. Is it too late to get rid of that? Sure it seems cute but it seems a little creepy only knowing her for 10 days, if you can give us more background story we might be able to help.

 

Don't try and get her to cheat on her boyfriend with you. Respect their relationship and be a good friend if need be to keep in contact with her. Also 10 days is rather short to be making the decision that "she's the one"

 

Lol damn bruh.. You love her already? If anything, I'd flirt back just to see where it goes.

 

sounds like you're on the rebound homie.

 

This is why I want to know when you broke up with your girlfriend. It sounds to me like you're finding a rebound, someone to fill an empty void in your life that your ex once fulfilled.

 

It's been about 6 months since my girlfriend and I broke up

 

So, essentially you're just getting over the grieving process. You're still trying to compensate for the free time you have in your life that was once filled by your ex-girlfriend.

I would say hold off, especially with the letter. A letter now, in this generation, would only work in the movies. You also mentioned she has a boyfriend, which is unfair to the both of them to take such dramatic actions. Without knowing the physical abilities of him, you may get your ass whooped.

To me, it sounds like you're just getting out of or possibly still in the grieving process. You got out of an emotionally unstable relationship and now you're looking to re-fill it with another time-waster.

Take some time and rediscover yourself, i say this because you were in an emotionally unstable relationship for 3.5 years. Although you may know what you want, as humans, we tend to find the same type of relationships we were previously in without proper healing and self-descovery.

In other words, find yourself first. The last thing you want is a v2 of your previous relationship.

 

As posted above, 6 months ago (roughly). I found out she was cheating on me and I couldn't get past it.

I have not sent the letter. I wrote it more of a way to get how I was feeling down in writing (although typed).

We have been hanging out every day, to every other day in her room alone. I usually am helping her with homework. However she always makes me give her like hour long back massages (which I actually kind of enjoy, and I am a percussionist so I have no problem with going long periods of time while using my hands).

2 Other times we have hung out (so like 2 out of the 7 times we have hung out), I have been providing her some solace because of her boyfriend and her fighting. I have been up there at 3-4 in the morning with her just comforting her.

What other details were u looking for?

I know it is soon. I'm not saying she's necessarily the one, but I think you have to date and see how each other are before you can know that for sure. I would NEVER cheat, and I would NEVER be with someone that I knew was cheating, I was with a cheater for awhile and it was just a shit-show relationship.

I'm not sure if it's love... I do flirt back and that's all it is from what I can tell.

I know the letter seems like a movie thing, that's why I thought it might work... I am quite romantic and genuine and sweet.

As for getting my ass whooped, I think not. I passed the physical fitness examination for an Army ROTC program with qualifications that could land me in sniper school immediately after college (depending on if I fully accept my PFC ranking offer), and he is a skinny/lanky kid.

My morals are kind of set how they are I believe. I don't think there is much of anything that could change me at this point. I am firm on my mind, i guess it's just my heart that's not firm.
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I guess for now I will just live from a distance with her, still being friends but waiting and seeing where everything goes... I guess it will be hard on my heart knowing what it is she is doing with her scummy boyfriend who does nothing all day but smoke pot, and get C's in high school. but oh well, life goes on I suppose...

I am still thinking of continuing the letter, and giving it to her way down the road... months, maybe a year... If I still feel the same. However I do not really want to post it online....

 

Are you sure your in love? Or can it be infatuation. You only known her for 10 days, so you are really rushing things. Definitely stay out the way of her current boyfriend, be respectful of their relationship. Maybe you can wait till they break up to make your move. She might even think your just a really good friend so thats why she flirts with you.

 

I wouldn't go through with the note under the door thing, that's creeper status. Just tell her how you feel face to face, or at least in a text, but don't just randomly get onto the topic. Ask her how things are with her and her boyfriend or some thing along those lines, and work to it from there.

 

Take it slow, I'd say. Definite no on the note.

Because she has a boyfriend, I think you're really jumping the gun. Try to make friends with her first before you creep her out or scare her away.

 

it could totally be infatuation, but it's just whenever I see her I can't help but smile... I am staying out of the way of her current relationship. I have been cheated on before and it sucks. I just don't want to be friend zoned before it starts.

I don't have her number, she says she won't give it to me because she thinks I am going to drunk call her... probably true lol.

I am trying, I just don't want to get friend zoned...

 

To be honest, you sound like a highschool teenager who has a good female friend who doesn't mind flirting with you because you are good friends and you are taking it the wrong way and you are severely friend zoned and you have a huge crush on her. Take a deep breath and just move on.

 

Have you been "friend zoned" before? I don't believe in the infamous friend zone one bit. If a girl sees qualities in you that she'd like to have in a boyfriend, you're never going to be completely shut out of dating her. It seems like more of a mental block on guys' parts to me, honestly.

I was best friends with my girlfriend for at least six months before we started dating, then I told her I had feelings for her and we started dating shortly after that. It's been a couple of years, and things are going great, "friend zone" be damned. We saw it as our time to get to know each other.

 

it's over homie

 

I have been. It was a few months after my initial break up and the girl I had told how I felt said "I feel like we're better friends, I don't want to ruin our friendship."
and i told her all the B.S. that if we break up we would still be friends etc.

that's what im worried about.

 

It's over get over it move on with your fucking life she won't even give you her number as friends oh my god. GET OVER IT and move on thats life holy shit not being mean but thats the deal yo, if you don't like it then idk what to tell you next time that bitch hits you up say don't talk to me we out 1.

 

Why are you being so mean? This is the personal help section, for people who need help with personal issues.