I want a guy's opinion on this

I've been dating my current boyfriend for 5 years. Of course like every couple we've had our disagreements and difficulties but lately things have been getting a little out of hand in my opinion. My boyfriend and myself are two very stubborn people so when we get into a fight I usually just leave him alone until he calms down, because otherwise it's world war 3. For like the last 3 months he's been abnormally emotional and gets angry over silly things. Yesterday there was a lizard in the house and I caught it and let it go outside, and he got mad at me for that because I "cared more about the lizard than him." He then proceeded to scream at me for not caring about him because I found a lizard while cleaning while he sat on the couch and watched tv, ok. He also has been EXTREMELY paranoid lately. He all the sudden has an issue with me hanging out with anyone unless he's there. Which is starting to feel a little too controlling for me. I've never cheated on him, I've never done anything suspicious, and I literally tell him everything. This along with several other abnormalities in his behavior are starting to concern me because he's turning into a very angry person as of late. What do you guys think about the situation? My girlfriends say he's acting ridiculous and have suggested to me several things that I don't really want to do.. So I'd like some guys to tell me if this is normal or if he's acting ridiculous or if you get into these weird funks or what?

Sorry for bad grammar/spelling, done from iPhone :x

 

It's quite abnormal. He's your boyfriend and if he's acting like that, it's not healthy. A relationships should be enjoyable. You shouldn't have to deal with his odd behavior, if it's not making you happy, you need to voice it and give him an ultimatum. It's not someone wants to hear but it needs to be done. Think about your future with him, do you see him able to take care of your child and promote a healthy childhood with his odd actions?

 

Personally if my girlfriend said that because I let a lizard out my exact words would be "stfu" but not in abbreviation.
I am a guy who likes trust, I like a girl who will let me go out with my friends without ringing me every hour to see what I'm up to. If I were you I'd dump his ass, but then again I know that will be very hard after 5 years and it's possible he might just be going through something you don't know about.

Speak to him about it and try and get him to talk.

 

Well I did ask him if he's sick or if something is bothering him, because he basically turns into Satan when he's sick. Which I don't mind because I want to take care of him and get him better. But this has been going on for like 3 months and I've asked him multiple times if theres something bothering him or if he's stressed, so now if I ask anything along those lines he's just like "I told you I'm perfectly fine for the 105th time dammit."

He DOES get weird like this every now and then, but he usually tells me why and I help him get through it or put his mind at ease.. But this has been going on for a quarter of a year!

 

I don't want to get anything in your head but do you think he is the kind of guy to cheat?

 

We have access to eachothers phones, I'm with him practically 24/7, and a whole host of other things

No, I don't think he would. But famous last words yknow? 2 of his ex's cheated on him and he dislikes anyone who lies or cheats greatly, he's pushed a few friends out of his life because of it. I seriously doubt he would just from the amount of time we've spent together, and we're always together, and we both got rid of our facebooks like.. 3 years ago because he had some family drama and our lives were just less stressful with it not being a factor

 

Well 5 years is a rather long time, is your relationship sexual if you don't mind me asking? If I was with a girl for 5 years and we hadn't done anything yet I'd be questioning if she liked me.

 

Typically every other day.

Unless we get into an argument, but that never usually lasts more than maybe 5 days or so.

We have a pretty.. Er.. Active relationship in that sense

 

sounds like something is going on with him mentally, try to talk to him when he is most relaxed and get it out of him and work with him on it. no one justs starts to be a bitch one day unless something happend to them. He seems paranoid, maybe he's guilty about something he did and fears youre going to do the same. Just talk to him and try not to be too hostile.

If all else fails just have sex with him to ease his mind. And if he's still awake or talkative after try to talk to him about it. The best way to go about talking to him is when he's relaxed and most vulnerable.

 

Pursue happiness. You don't want to be miserable the rest of your life, do you? Can you being together for the future? Just don't drag out a relationship that needs to be cut off. You're either in or out of the relationship, if you're second doubting the future with him, you should probably end it now.

 

Although now that I think about it we haven't had sex in about a week and a half now. He tried like 4 nights ago but I wasn't in the mood. But this has been going on for 3 months.

I mean I can try and do what you say thatguy, but usually whenever I try and talk about something serious afterwards he just sits there and grunts at me till he passes out. :l

EDIT: I'm not second guessing it at all. I'm just asking males if they consider his actions to be normal and how a guy feels I should handle the situation since I've tried everything I can. I love him very much and we've made it through a lot together and that's why this whole situation concerns me and I want to figure it all out. It's just wearing on me because im trying so hard to snap him out of it.

 

this is a serious question is he on any drugs

 

If you asking a runescape cheating forum for advice on this, well.. there is your answer.

I've been with my wife for 5 years, married for one, (i'm only 19 btw.)

When we fight....it's WW3, she's small... skinny..., but will woop my ass.

But, the time we aren't fighting outweighs the times we are.

Plus it usually leads to violent sex, which I like personally.

 

Not that I know of. He is an insomniac and is pretty heavily medicated for that.

But he's always taken that and been perfectly fine.

 

I'm confused about your first statement, Murder.

We usually are perfectly fine, he's just been acting strange for the past few months. Odd things set him off, he'll be happy one moment then irrational the next, and he's way more emotional than he usually is.

(I'm sorry about the double post, it showed Murder's comment after my comment to the last person saying something.)

 

Pregnant.

No, just kidding. In all seriousness, I do that sometimes aswell, I get very irrational for periods of time, with that being said. I don't know your boyfriend, his mannerisms, or if what you're saying is in the actual.

Nevertheless, if it worries you, talking about it couldn't hurt, as worst it would do is cause another fight, which you say small stuff causes anyhow, so why not have ti be over a serious matter.

As for my first statement, It was a... joke I guess you could say, like why the fuck are you asking Sythe.org type of thing.

Anyhow, yeah, could be normal, or maybe he's giving you a run for your money, and he's cheating on you. Could be one extreme or the other. Somewhere in between aswell.

 

Because all of his guy friends have the emotional and mental capabilities of a cardboard box, and I don't really talk to many guys anymore besides my best friend who basically told me the same things my girlfriends did. I know there are intelligent and worldly people on this site who can offer an outside and unbiased opinion, which is what I was looking for.

I guess I'll just take the majority vote and attempt to talk to him about it again, just maybe try a different approach.

 

Like I said, I was joking. But yeh, or get someone to throw him a beating, happened to me before, set me straight for a while.

 

What should I say when I try to approach him this time?

Because asking if he was okay or upset or if there was something bothering him didn't work before.

Your wife got someone to beat you up?
Bad ass.

 

Hey douchebag... Or just try hey babe.

Either one, and fuck no, she didn't get someone to beat me up.

When i was in high school, I went with this girl.. and allegedly I was being a dick(kinda was), and her uncle beat the shit out of me, fractured my cheeck bone. Sucked.