Why now?

Alright, well it all started about two years ago. Dating the girl of my dreams, I want to be with her forever and she feels the same way. Two months into relationship my parents decide to ruin my life and move. I go to a new school, lonely as fuck. Move from east coast to west coast, everyone is fake, nobody cares about anyone but themselves. I hate everyone. Girlfriend decides to stay with me in hopes that I may move back. a year+ passes, she is definitely my dream girl, I realize we are both not happy with the situation. I think to myself its probably best to let her go and find somebody new and be happy without me. She ends up dating my best friend, Ignore her for a year, maybe talk on and off.

Two years have gone by, still haven't really moved on. Not upset about it at all not a care in world. Try to date other girls but realize Its not the same. Now just a couple weeks ago she started talking to me again, phone calls ect. Its just hitting me now how upset I am over losing her, when I broke up with her I pretty much felt no pain as I thought it was the right thing to do. Every time I talk to her I get so depressed when I think about what could have been by now and losing somebody who I loved so much.

I don't know why I'm posting this here but my friends aren't really the type of people to talk about this with.

So I guess I'm asking has anyone had a situation like this? What did you do to get over it? Also, any advice to help move on?

 

Had something like this happen without the whole moving away thing, had a mutual brakeup, at the time I didn't care, then I realized I missed her, I just moved on and started seeing other people

 

Yeah, I feel you. I tried hanging out with this girl a few weeks ago. Didn't have the same feelings I did with my ex. I guess I just have to keep looking.

 

Never been in your position, for I don't trust woman.

But I know what you're feeling right now.

You feel betrayed by your friend, you feel depressed leaving her.
I bet you want to just punch and kick the living and smelly shit out of your friend right now, right?

You have every right to do so.

But, here's what I think:

Stay in touch with her.

You know, you'll never know, you might move back, and she's single.

If not, just wait until you're old enough to move back to where ever, and see if you can hook up with her.

If the two of you connected once before, it'll always happen.

Keep your head up.



-Makarove

 

Thanks for the advice, I don't blame my friend at all though. I blame her way more than him. She was pretty much fair game since I had been gone for so long. I don't know, but I'm pretty much over this whole part of it.

 

Keep in contact as friends imo, but don't try long distance relationship as it never works.

 

I dated a girl for three years. Broke up with her a month ago for various reasons.

Check out this website

www.thesocialman.com

will help you get back on your feet

 

Just try to move on it will come with time trust me on this.

 

I can feel your pain man. My situation is a bit different, but also very similar. My ex-girlfriend decided she wanted to move back home at the end of our 3 year relationship (to a different province), and we were also having problems in the relationship at the time and fighting alot and so she made the choice to go by herself.

I have never felt so much pain in my entire life. It has been almost 2 years and I still dream about her nearly every night, still remember exactly how her face looks, how she smelled etc. But she wants nothing to do with my anymore, especially after she recieved word of how I decided to completely throw my life away after she left. It is a truly depressing situation missing the love of your life and so I totally relate to you, and hope I can offer you slight comfort just by knowing somebody else out there is experiencing/has experienced something very similar.

I just have to grit my teeth and push forward through my days right now and hope that life will get better and I will eventually have that release I need so bad, where I can just move on with my life and forget about her. I suggest you try and move on with your life as well, unless you seriously think you could move back there and make it work. Otherwise, the distance just makes it much too painful.

 

Been in your same situation. I still miss her but dating someone else who i have feelings for. It took forever (2years) to get over the girl i left when i moved :/ Id give anything to move back still

 

I've personally never been in a situation like this, as I've never moved.

However I have been through a lot of break ups.
It's perfectly fine to feel bad about it, hell I don't know one person who hasn't been sad about a break up. You really just need some more time and to occupy yourself. Although it's been two years I would have said that was enough time, but obviously not, just keep trying and you'll get over her eventually. It was probably just made worse because of the move, moving house is very stressful and having to make new friends and going to a new school etc is stressful too.

 

Just move on man. Your on the west coast and shes on the east coast, long distance relationships never work.

 

Yeah, I realized they didn't work when I broke up with her the first time. I'm trying to move on but talking to her and thinking about the good times just makes me mad depressed.

 

stay long distance friends. don't worry about being in a relationship. You know I don't really want to say it because everyone else has said it, but they just don't work because you need the physical part. You want it, she wants it. without it, tension will happen and you will start to fight. But definitely keep her on your list and dont let her forget you.

 

Well atlest keep talking to her, who knows maybe love takes over to much and you want to move back, dont let her forget you.
I my self have a girlfriend that live 2 hours away from me, I meet her 1-2 times a week sometimes less, we still happy and when we are together we spend alot of time together, works fine.
Just don't give up, that you live far away from her dosen't means that you can't love her and make her yours.

 

I havn't exactly myself been in the same situation although I believe I can offer you some advice, see at the end of the day if things are meant to be they will work out in the end. What's for you won't go by you.

Girls sometimes like to talk to ex's for a feeling of want, she's not necessarily trying to mess with you it's just human instinct to want people to miss you I guess.

Just be positive and try not to get dragged into old or suppressed feelings you have about it. If this isn't possible, maybe speak to her about it to give you an idication of how you both feel in relation to the situation? You seem pretty young to me, don't get hung up on these things. Go out and have fun and enjoy yourself, make the best of whatever situation your in.

I've had a few pretty hard breakups and the only advice I can give you is just make yourself busy, both physically and mentally, don't think about things and what happened or what could have been because it just becomes a detrimental cycle. I really hope things get better for you, just go out and enjoy your life!