Girl Troubles...

Well there is this girl I really like and for some reason I just cant talk to her. She is one year younger than me and I have grade 11 physics with her (had to take grade 11 because i didnt take it last year). I constantly think about her, maybe over 10 times a day and its starting to get really annoying because I cant talk to her. This is the first girl I didnt just think about having sex with, i actually want to be with her. I am able to talk to all her friends and have most of her friends BBM's but whenever she talks to me i start turning red and start stuttering like an idiot. She tried to talk to me a couple times in the hallways about physics but i usually give her 1 word answers because I know I will start stuttering if the conversation doesnt end. She usually stares at me in physics too so I have a feeling she likes me but for some god dam reason i cant get the courage to have a conversation with her. I know if I just pull myself to have one nice conversation with her I can get her number or BBM. I am on my 2 week holiday break atm and when the break is done we only have school for 2 weeks, meaning I only have class with her for 2 more weeks. And I am also going to university this year so I wont be seeing her again after this year. Sorry for writing so much but I really cant express myself like this to people I know irl, its easier to say it over the net. Thanks for taking your time and reading this long paragraph, I would really appreciate it if I got some advice that would help me talk to this girl.

P.S: I cant talk to her in class because she sits really far from me and my teacher is a hard ass so whenever I get up to talk to someone she yells at me. And also, she doesn't try to talk to me any more because she probably thinks im not interested in her since I used to give her 1 word answers to end the convo.

 

Uhm, why is it that you turn red? Are you embarrassed or just shy?

I suggest ignoring that you turn red, she might even find it cute (hopefully? ), and keep talking to her, and eventually when you feel more comfortable you wont turn red anymore

 

I turn red because I get shy for some reason lol. But thanks, I think that was really good advice. If I ignore that I turn red than ill probably be able to stay calm and think straight rather than worrying about my redness. This hasn't happened to me before, i usually have no problem talking to girls, its just this 1 im having trouble with and i cant for the life of me find out why

 

Grab her number from one of her friends.

 

I thought about that but wouldn't that be kind of weird? Like just randomly messaging her friend for her number?

 

I used to turn red whenever I talked to ANYBODY that wasn't like one of my close friends.

Now I honestly can talk to anybody and I won't turn red or anything. And if for some reason I do, I don't care or try to hide it.

 

Does she have a Facebook? If she does you can add her as a friend, then start messaging her there, and get a number too.

 

Hopefully I end up like you one day

But wouldn't I just come off as desperate if I do that? Specially because I didn't have a proper conversation with her before, every time she tried to talk to me I would just shun her.

 

Due to the fact you'll only have two weeks left after your holidays, it's essential you ask her out ASAP. However, i feel getting her number is minor, you'gr got two weeks left, go in and ask her out, what's the worse that could happen? So what if you go red, so what if you start to stutter, it's a one chance oppurtunity.


"Do you want to become an old man, filled with regret, waiting to die alone?"

Bit extreme, nevertheless, a great quote indeed.

 

But wouldn't I just come off as desperate if I do that? Specially because I didn't have a proper conversation with her before, every time she tried to talk to me I would just shun her.[/QUOTE]
-pardon for the mediocore quote
Well if you like her this is a good way to redeem the shunning, you won't come off as desperate because she doesn't even know you like her. If she seems to carry a positive, joyful attitude with you when you're conversating (smileys are a good sign), she probably likes you. You could always talk about movies, then ask her if she would like to go anytime soon. After a date with her you'll know whether this will work or not, if it goes well go ask her the question! Also don't ask her out via text or message, make sure to do it in person.

 

We typically fabricate stories of people we dont know very well because we find them attractive to us in some way.

Your best shot is just to talk to her, be confident, what is the worst that can happen? Confidence is DEAD SEXY to ALL girls.

 

Alright thanks alot for the advice and support guys, in the first week that I get back to school im going to try my hardest to get her number and bbm and try to ask her out by the second week

 

Tell us what happened

 

Make sure you do it mate. If you don't, you could regret it. Just make sure you don't leave it down to the last minute.

 

Remember to take your time with things,
Don't rush it.

 

Sorry I forgot to update this in a while. Well basically what happened was I got her BBM and I even walked her home the other day but I did something really retarded. When we got to her house she reached out to hug me and at the same time I reached out to shake her hand *facepalm* But I just put my hand down and hugged her lol. Well things are going well so far but I have no clue when to ask her out on a first date.